How many families here observe this custom? To my understanding it is isolating the bride from the groom and from the world in general for a certain amount of time before the wedding in order for her to
1- attend to personal grooming so that she glows on wedding day
2- increases the excitement of marriage perhaps? I dont know
So I’m thinking all families observe this (least the old fashioned ones). Is it going to be a week before? A month? What?
Btw, there is no contact allowed in this time interval with the groom AT ALL. No sms, no email, no chat, no phone - nothing. I’m wondering if I’d cheat
haha i dont think girls over this side of the world have the time or patience to "sit" in traditional mayoon :p taking a week off is another story.....although my workplace give brides to be 2 weeks extra paid holidays!! YAY :D
haha if no contact is the maayon’s shart…I had a full a month and a half of Maayon Got myself busy with my preps, ward tests and classes and other tests as I had to take time off for shadi!
Other than that I officially sat for maayon just 2 days before the wedding
2 weeks before my wedding i stopped going out, only cos i wanted clear skin and not be polluted from Faisalabad dirty air. But i spoke to my hubby on mehndi night freaking out that he won't show up next day! (which was pretty silly of me). He too didn't leave his house a week before, cos he was worried about getting robbed in Pak as his mohalla people knew that he was a foreigner.
My family in Pakistan deff does this tradition. I remember my coz on her wedding....she was in her room surrounded by all the gfs and coz and just stayed in there at least 2 weeks...and mehndi/mayoun dress was worn until day of wedding. Which is like ...ummmm no for me...
For my case, I deff didn't do this rasm fully (just had one day for Mayoun) b/c I had to come to Pakistan, organize things, shop for my bridal clothes, run to apts at salon for facials, waxing, and mehndi. The wedding was in the city, as opposed to the family village (where most of the weddings take place in my family, so its a lot easier for everyone else to do the work and you just sit in a room). Plus my mom and I had to handle guests in our house, do the cooking/cleaning etc... b/c my coz were lazzyyyyyyyyyyyyyy and I was running around being a good hostess instead of being all bridal! :( I'm still mad about that, that I didn't get to feel very bridal in Pakistan. It is OK though...my girls had given me a nice bridal shower in the states.
I think this tradition is nice, for few days. But to each their own. What I don't like is catty relatives who look down on a bride if she isnt' doing this. Modern times call for modern events, and many girls are being ACTIVE in their wedding planning...which is GREAT.
My grandfather was ticked off and didn't even come to my wedding b/c he was mad at how I was going about this wedding....going to salon, buying clothes, not sitting in a room for a month. (UM HELLO, I was busy taking care of his beloved family and it's not like he helped me out with anything) :( He said I wasn't "pakistani" enough at my wedding.... and I totally WAS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
My mom used to tell me stories about how she and her sisters would join the mayoun with her friends from school during their weddings. It was a nice time for all of them to do facials, eat well, and just wonder about their upcoming wedding.
It's like having a unique sisterhood bond. I didn't get that in Pakistan, b/c I don't have a sister and nor do I have any friends there. But it's alright in the end...I enjoyed one day of mayoun with my extended family and I'm happily married to the best man in the world!! :)
Seems like I had a little venting session going on....hehe
I would've done it if the logistics allowed. But my wedding was in December in Karachi, at the end of a long line of other close weddings. It just wasn't possible.
These days what usually happens is like the weekend or a few days before the wedding events there may be a mayun and then after that, the bride has restricted movements (and even wears yellow).
I won't be doing it. I don't think a lotta girls here in North America can even do it. Plus aren't you supposed to wear just one dress for the entire time? I most def. can't do that!!
yes i sat for 7 days but wth changes i went outside i spoke 2 huby as well but for these 7 days i wore the same yellow jora wth yellow bangles n khussa n paranda in oily hair :)n dupaata on head n for 7 days i daily applied ubtan on my body :)
yes i sat for 7 days but wth changes i went outside i spoke 2 huby as well but for these 7 days i wore the same yellow jora wth yellow bangles n khussa n paranda in oily hair :)n dupaata on head n for 7 days i daily applied ubtan on my body :)
my wedding is on the 23rd dec and were planning the mehndi on the 16th dec.
My family doesnt really care about the the mayoun bathna thing but i want to do it! I like the whole concept of it!
Also we werent planning a mayoun but we may do it at my house with only close family, so does this happen before the mehndi or between the mehndi and wedding?
Its called 'manjhe' in India :) for about a week before the actual wedding, the bride is kept at home and pampered as these would be her last days at her father's home. All the relatives come one-by-one and lovingly smear her with haldi&chiksa and she is made to bath with sandalwood and neem, her hair are washed with shikakai and reetha and rinsed with aarq-e-gulaab--All this is done for 7 consecutive days. She's made to follow a special diet and not allowed to do any work. And yes she is made to wear yellow all through(I don't know the significance of yellow though) She is lavished with love and affection. The result? A bride glowing from head-to-toe especially because she is happy from inside :)
She is not supposed to be let out under the open sky for the fear of jinnat falling for her, hence when the wedding commences the bride is brought out cloistered under a duppata held above her by her sisters(and future brides :)) The groom is not allowed to see her at all through the ceremony of nikah and even during bidai/ruksati and thats why a typical Indian muslim bride has a sehra of flowers on her face during bidai.
The groom sees her reflection during arsi-musaaf for the first time :)
All this happens in an Indian Muslim Marriage-arranged or otherwise :)
Got myself busy with my preps, ward tests and classes and other tests as I had to take time off for shadi!
