Mayoun and Mehndi together? -- Same day!

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Hello and Salaam guppies :slight_smile:

My in-laws aren’t too keen on a Mehndi and the girls on my side don’t dance in mixed gatherings anyway, so it worked out well! However, I was thinking, instead of holding a separate function for each event, why not do a Mehndi and Mayoun on the same day! There isn’t much of a difference in rasams anyway. I’ve never to been such a function before though - and I’m a little worried that people may not understand it. Traditionally a mayoun has a small Islamic speech on marriage, then dua and mithai feeding. I was thinking of extending that, so instead of just jumping straight to dinner, we can give out appetizers after the mithai feeding, have a dholki, dinner and then have dance presentations during dessert.

Anyone ever done such a function? And what do you even call it? A Mayoun & Mehndi? I’m confuzzledddd :bummer: But I do like the idea!

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Re: Mayoun and Mehndi together? -- Same day!

I'm a little confused, I thought you said dancing was out??? Then what dance presentations are you talking about? Here's my understanding of Mayoun & Mehndi functions (or at least how they are done in my family/sphere of influence):

Mayoun:

Is held at the bride's parents home. Usually is the day the girl gets her bridal mehndi done. The bride spends the day being pampered and primped, and usually is not dressed up at all....prior to any rasams, a milaad is held, ending with a fatiha. For the rasms, the bride is usually smeared with ubtan and fed mithai by 7 married women, and at least in my family, presented with gifts from her mami's, khala's chachi's etc....all this culminates with singing, dancing, masti etc. In old school traditional Hyderabadi customs, that same night, the bride is left at home with her parents, while the rest of the family go to the grooms place with some mithai, and his barri (sherwani, suit, watch, etc) and do some rasms there. I have not seen that particular custom observed here in our circle in the US in a long time though....

Mehndi

Is the night when the groom's family comes to the bride with her wedding attire, jewelry etc. They do their moo meetha rasm, or the thing with the paan leaf in her hand....the groom is also then teased by the bride's sisters/cousins etc and various rasms like ungli pakarna etc insue and naik is handed over.

Depending on the family's involoved...group/choreographed dancing, singing and back and forth dance off's between both sides takes place until the wee hours of the night.

Now, given those above scenarios, if you want to have a joint event and combine two in one, you could start off with a darz & dua, do the mithai feeding and yes, go straight to dinner. That would make perfect sense!

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I've never really noticed the difference between the two. I'm having my nikkah and mehndi/mayoun all on the same day. I have guests travelling from other cities and it'll be convenient for them this way.

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^ Sounds good Disney!

Khattichic - I meant dancing in front of males in the same room. Most girls from my side, including my sister and I are really particular about that, so we wanted a girls only event - which works out perfectly in this case :)

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i see no point of a mayoun AND mehndi unless one is an informal, girls only type thing while the other is a formal event held in a hall with many more guests...

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Its always done the same way in our family that is Mayon and mehndi on the same day. The way it works is. Mayon is girls side only, selected guests, usually female only except some very close male relatives and at home usually. Its done around 3-4 PM, usually a dars/ milad and then the rasam. After the rasam ends the mehndi function starts and more guests and the bridegroom's side arrives. Food is served then. If need be, some snacks or appetizers can beserved at the myon function too.

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^That makes sense, eastern11. I quite like the way the day is filled up.

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have both on the same day .. more the functions .. the more hectic it gets for the bride .. u can have numerous dholkis but have one enjoyment night for these two celebrations - its bigger and better and stays memorable .. too many days mess it up .. (n i havent noticed any difference between these two rasms as well - religiously .. they dont even exist so why care)... have one reception/baraat day .. then valima .. then dinners follow .. so ure loaded already!