Mayoon Behti Hai.

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Re: Mayoon Behti Hai.

tj and majestic
as long as u two gals are not performing
all of marital duties I am not concerned. :smash:

Enjoy!! :slight_smile:
Hope the best for u guys.

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If the nikkah has occured so can the marital duties - the rest is just cultural bs, except the walima

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am I the only one who thinks it's more fun to perform ur "marital duties" on the sly :D

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i dont get it mostly all the cultural events are taken from indian culture yet pakis still hate indians. and people should skip all the cultural events and go all out on the nikkah and valima.

tusi ki karde ho
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my lips are sealed :blush:
thanx :smiley:

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haha reminds me of a couple who were nikahed and the girl ended up getting pregnant. when her parents found out, they rushed to get the rukhsati and valima done and then 8 months later when she gave birth to her baby, her parents told everyone that it was premature but everyone knew it wasn’t because it was nice and healthy like babies are when they’re born at the normal time.

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little ol me?? :blush:
lol

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hahaha I knew someone like that also. Didnt the girl use anything?? :eek:

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It's not that easy to postpone the marriage before a day or two. Let's say if there are 1000 people invited then no one can give reasons/excuses to all of them, and ofcourse it's impossible to satisfy them. So yeah people do take certian decisions which they don't want to just because of culture, society and above all "loag". Nothing's new. Yahan to ye sab hota rehta hai, already happened in my family. Doesn't mean I like this practice but well what can I do.

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:rotfl:

If the Nikaah has been done then why not?

I agree with everyone we need to cut out the cultural crap and just have a Nikaah and a Waleemah.

I’ve asked my parents when I go to Pakistan this summer I want the Nikaah done (you can guess why), Rukhsati can happen much later as I’m not ready to setlle down yet.

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ranjhan
so what if your wife doesn't wanna go by your plans before
the rukhsati?

ayween
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what I wanna know is why is a Rukhsati a must? I mean why not just nikkah and walima. Walima can be Rukhsati also you know.

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so why hav ur nikkah if ur not ready to "settle down" ?

*~ I QuiT >-------------
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i dunno..
if that happened to me, id just make it more like an engagement thing.

another paki culture thing that pisses me off. if you/ someone in your family has a shaadi. everyone is invited. neighbors. father's co-workers. siblings' friends, that youve never meet. long lost relatives, who come for the food. and if they dont get invited (esp the annoyin relatives) they all get pissed.

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i donoo thats crazy but as far my aproach is ..... sometimes they just cancel the marriage considerin it as a ** BAD LUCK ** or wateva u wana say to make it look fancy but i think thats y that family wanted to rush through the whole thing and get over with it ..... yall might not agree but thats only my opinion :)

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thats not only with desi, and I hate that also. I hate when people show up to a party, wedding and they were not invited.

rahul is hurt
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this is the very essence of our culture - we just dont do calculations.. sharing is the main purpose.. we do so many things without any reward or return.. we mourn and share happy moments regardless of relations.. ever seen people just joining janazas when they see one.. this unconditonality of formality separates our culture from west..