Re: Matrimonial Websites
I don’t think alot of girls would use it as a first option because of several reasons.
**The attitude:**The attitude these aunties posses when a girls parents approach tehm is that “something must be wrong” regardless of the facts. They spend no time in telling the girl in what her short commings are which are plenty from too educated, too rich ,to not rich ,too dark ,caste and list is never ending. They then tell them they must be willing to compromise on their demands which is okay a reasonable suggestion but their whole attitude like they are doing the girl a favour is off putting.
**Trust:**A lot of these marriage beaureas are not very trustworthy. Extended Family used one such reputable place and the girl had schizophrenia which was only disclosed once extreme problems arose in the marriage.She had priorly been taken abroad for treatment but was was unable to be cured and this wasn’t disclosed to the family.
Again what these “aunties” might do if you have a tiff with them since they have your personal details. Usually it’s their first weapon of choice.
Society : Judges .Judges.Judges. and as much as I’d love tos ay brush it off and it’s about your future etc, it’s hard to do in desi communities which are close knit and specially if it’s a family situation mums are reluctant undestably of making their daughters a target of more gossip/town talk.
**Desperation :‘**So you couldn’t find anyone from all the relatives & extended family you have?! Or from all the family friends you have?! What about your own circle of friends , can’t they set u up. I mean it’s a pretty big chunk of society we are talking about’.
Thinking & comments like these make the girl feel shes ***desperate or worse make her look desperate ***when all she’s doing is using all the avenues possible.
Dont know about others but in Pakistan there are is enough family & friends match making (un asked for) without going through this rishta process.