what do people think of them? do people have any experiences of them?
People in my community have started to use them…i thought they were for people who found it very difficult for getting rishtas.
But now it has come to me i have realised it can be very difficult to find a rishta..and my parents are considering putting a profile up for me on a website…im not sure if i want it or not!
We have been looking for 4-5 months and a couple of people have come around but nothing has come of them…between those and now it has been dry!
Frankly, I believe the sites are a really good source. like any other thing there there are good people and bad people ... you just have to be clever enough to go through the entire usual rishta process before involving yourself with anyone online , but other then that i can promise you , you will find some good stuff on them, I know several several girls that are mashallah happily married and their source was the rishta websites .. some of them had spent thousands of pounds on the rishta aunties which never worked...
Do ensure that you dont treat the site as a chat site , use it to seek introductions with families and do full investigations like its done in normal rishtas.
Usually when you're in India or Pakistan, you have these huge social circles that you are revolving in. During the course of your teens and twenties, you're always in peoples' eyes and when there is an eligible bachelor, you are automatically referred. Living in India and Pakistan makes it easier to get married. Plus, our parents' era and our era is very different. We're talking about the age of technology where you are even shopping for groceries online...so why not a spouse? :)
But when you're living in abroad or even in an area where you dont have an active social life, what do you do? Between work, school and family...how much time do people really have to pursue a partner? Not much at all. :(
I dont think online matrimonial sites are for people who cant get rishtas...they are for people who are too busy to get rishtas.
Its all a matter of luck . Our spouse is decided by our fate , there are just many different ways of meeting our spouse and martimonial sites are one of them.
I dont agree with the fact that in India and Pakistan people can find their mates in gatherings , if that was true then there wouldn't have been so many rishta wala ladies working here and making good money out of it ! Just for information , when a rishta lady gets a rishta final they charge 10,000 from girl side of the family and 5,000 from boy side with registeration fee starting from 1,000 as seperate. I am sure this rate must also be varrying from location to location.
Martimonial sites are good provided two sincere people meet each other otherwise " seeing is believing "
Frankly, I believe the sites are a really good source. like any other thing there there are good people and bad people ... you just have to be clever enough to go through the entire usual rishta process before involving yourself with anyone online , but other then that i can promise you , you will find some good stuff on them, I know several several girls that are mashallah happily married and their source was the rishta websites .. some of them had spent thousands of pounds on the rishta aunties which never worked...
Do ensure that you dont treat the site as a chat site , use it to seek introductions with families and do full investigations like its done in normal rishtas.
Good luck.
I completely agree with CB - i met my hubby through a matrimonial site 4 years ago and Alhumdullilah we are happy. I came across many weirdos and you have to be very careful of what kind of information you put online. Dont give away too much. It wasnt my decision to put my profile on the site but my mums. I was a bit apprehensive at first but its fine as you are in control who you is controlling the profile.
shaadi.com is quite a large site , they are very strong in their marketing , you will definitely find some good people there ... there's nikah.com as well that i heard good things about.
Basically you get invitations from other people to contact you , you have to either accept them or reject them. if its someone totally different to your requirements just reject their invite, so you dont waste your time on unwanted issues.
When you do converse with someone, dont give away your entire details in the first go, when i was helping a friend look for the right match, first email exchange was a general overview of my friends family, and the boy would give his families overview... second exchange of conversation was mostly about involving the elders and getting the boy's telephone number and perhaps give your dad or brother or mother's number ... from there the online conversation ends, and the usual rishta process begins , if the phone conversation goes well , invite the families and so on ...
you just got to be aware of those people who will say" i want to know you first before involving my family " ... thats a clear indication that the guy will give you crap... so stay away from such idiots ... the fact of the matter is that one or two conversations are fine , but if someone wants to start a dating process that will put you in a risk situation.
the guys who are mature enough will realise that there are ample opportunties for both the girl and the guy to know each other even after their families are introduced. So there is no point putting yourself at risk online with a guy you dont know about.