and what is wrong with that as long as you can afford it and you have taken care of your other social and moral obligations that required the usage of your money.
Now if someone thinks that instead of buying an Iphone, I should've rather send that money to the poor kids of Somalia, then yes, in theory its a beautiful thought but in reality, it does not make sense, cause really .. as much as I love humanity, I am not gonna bust my behind only to save humanity, I would also like to buy some items of luxury for myself and my family. If I start doing that, outside my basic food (no sirloin steak for TLK's family, daal roti is just fine, steak is luxury), two pieces of clothing and basic shelter, everything in life could be classified as something that we do not need, hence becomes an item of luxury.
I don't define materialism to be linked with ones income generation capabilities. Just because you have more disposable income to spend on luxury items it doesn't mean you are any less materialistic. For me it is a simple fact of how much money do you spend on items that do not constitute a necessity, but rather are an additional comfort.
Buy a house is a necessity. Buying a Penthouse in New York on top a house in California and Florida is materalism. It can only be a necessity if you spend equal time there.
Same applies for items. An Iphone can be a necessity. But an Iphone, a video Ipod and then a sony cybershot camera, we are heading to the materialism side. In my view it is all about purchasing items that form some level of redundancy.
Or take DVR. You may need two DVRs for the sake of the kids, some guests and maybe one in the master bedroom. But setting up a DVR in every room that has a TV is again materialism.
They need cars but they don’t need to go out and buy a BMW/Porsche etc when a Ford Focus or a VW Golf would do lol and same goes for the latest 8-megapixel phone or newest sexiest looking laptop they can brag about to their mates. Guys are also just as obsessed with labels as girls are, go into any desi area of London and they’ll be banging on about d&g and hugo boss, not admitting they’ve spent a weeks wages on one top lol.
Me and my brother both drive expensive cars but I’m the one who gets the remarks about being materialistic even tho in all other ways I literally spend about half the amount he does. One of my aunties pointed this out but still generally when a boy drives a flash car he’s seen as ambitious, successful and driven but when a girl does she’s labelled as materialistic, greedy and/or ‘a handful’
hmm both TLK and CM have valid points but i side more with TLK... if you can afford it then why not?
Why not buy yourself something that you like and could not afford awhile ago... if you can afford it now, whats wrong with that?
what's wrong is when you stick your nose up at someoe whose got anything less.. thats wrong.. and thats call being materialistic. Wanting to only purchase something for the price tag rather than the quality..
Cars-MEN
Clothes-SOME MEN, SOME WOMEN
Furniture-WOMEN
Electronics-MEN
Purses-WOMEN
Whenever I hear the world 'materialistic', I get pissed off, because it reminds me of when this guy said my mom is 'materialistic' because she was asking if he got a job. This is a guy who is short on money but leasing an Audi,only wears brand name clothes, and is always buying electronics. My mom is a person who drives a 92 tercel, goes to garage sales and cuts out coupons.
Anyway, I think to judge being materialistic, you have to see one's spending choices against one's income. Like if I'm a millionaire, and I buy a mercedes, i would say that is not necessarily materialistic. But if a person making 40k a year does the same thing, i would think their priorities are messed up, b/c the cost of a mercedes would be such a large % of their income.
If we want a guy with a better car, nice salary, home, etc...they want a girl who is fair, skinnnnny, long hair,** doctor, rich family, lots of jehez**, etc.
Crap !
We only care for girls with beauty that's all and its not meterailistic at all. This jehaz thingy, family is rich or poor.. i have yet to seen a guy who care for this !
But anyway, most of the desi-chicks are ugly like hell and they get more ugly when they get over 30+ ..
on the other hand Russian/French become better and better.. why is that?
I hope that when you get married, you will value more than just looks in your partner....that you can look beyond her face/body n also appreciate the time she invested in taking care of your home, raising ur kids, n being there for you. With age, it becomes harder for both women AND men to maintain themselves. It's a two-way street. BOTH partners should try to take care of their appearance.
u just met one
i got a diamond set on mun dikhai n i was … well i wasn’t in jewelry or diamonds at all then. now i’m a lil bit. he bought me a chocolate diamond ring 2 months ago n i havn’t worn it yet coz where i put it i just can’t remember
and no not all ladies buy designer wear or designer bags every month. its only young gals or those with extra money.
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