I’m looking for match for one of my close relative daughter and while discussing my friend told about one match
indeed the match is very good, he is intelligent, handsome, having good job, good education, he studied his PG in one of the top institution, only problem is his parents are divorced, they got seperated when he is very young, his mother brought him with lot of hardwork and they struggle a lot to reach this position what they have now, that guy also brought a flat on his own
but when they told about this to my relatives they didn’t accept it only problem is his parents are divorced,
what the feedback i got from his friends is he is very nice and very helpful
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I'm looking for match for one of my close relative daughter and while discussing my friend told about one match indeed the match is very good, he is intelligent, handsome, having good job, good education, he studied his PG in one of the top institution, only problem is his parents are divorced, they got seperated when he is very young, his mother brought him with lot of hardwork and they struggle a lot to reach this position what they have now, that guy also brought a flat on his own but when they told about this to my relatives they didn't accept it only problem is his parents are divorced, what the feedback i got from his friends is he is very nice and very helpful
agar nahi maan te toh that's that. khud jab unn ki beti single rai gi coz they turn down every rishta for whatever reason, w/o even meeting the guy, that's their problem, they can cry abt it later.
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Well said Sara! If the rishta is good, at least investigate him. What fault was it of his if his parents divorced? Reminds me of a girl I know. She wanted to marry a young man who was a doctor, but he was Shia (she was Sunni). Her parents flat out forbade her and made her break it off. Seven years passed and no rishta came, despite the fact she's educated, has a career and is good looking. We just got her wedding invite in the mail--she's marrying a gora (and a Jew to boot).
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yeah man this is no excuse for turning down a rishta! a very long time ago this guy in our family friends had to turn down his gf of 5 yrs since his parents wont accept the fact that her parents were divorced. anyhoo, it's been 8-10 yrs now, he got married to someone else, however, the wife took off w/ another guy 3 yrs into the marriage!
sooo, now the guy is ofcourse a single parent, raising 2 kids by himself.. and to this day, he regrets not having fought for his gf and letting his family turn her down.....
Humanity: You can see for urself.. if the guy's parents are divorced, that's definitely not his fault!
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a gossip thread!
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so what if his parents r divorced 
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and I dont get the question...is it supposed tpo be like living in the ice age....Isnt it better that they seperated and lived in a loving home rather then being together and making everyones lives miserable along with the kids.Har bacha apni kismet le kar peida hota hai...so using this divorce thing is very low lying trick.
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Well said Sara! If the rishta is good, at least investigate him. What fault was it of his if his parents divorced? Reminds me of a girl I know. She wanted to marry a young man who was a doctor, but he was Shia (she was Sunni). Her parents flat out forbade her and made her break it off. Seven years passed and no rishta came, despite the fact she's educated, has a career and is good looking. We just got her wedding invite in the mail--she's marrying a gora (and a Jew to boot).
shez marryin a JEW?!
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/\ It left me wondering too…
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divorcedd ??? dt is such a dumb xcuse so wt if his parents r divorced ds deyre business dt dusnt mean dt d guy will b bad goddddd ppl mke me soo angryy , isnt it better for 2 ppl to separate if dey cnt live wid each other rather den stay 2getha n endure a painfull life which wud hve more effect on d childs upbringing den a divorcee
n plus ur relatives shudnt even hve say in hu ur daughter marries shud dey ?
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I agree with what others have said, but the issue is a delicate one. I doubt it would be an issue if the girl and boy liked each other and selected each other on their own. But when you're recommending a rishta it's like you're saying this is what your child is "worth." So people get uppity and insulted if the person being recommended isn't "perfect" because it reflects on how others perceive their own child.
Of course, the divorced parents shouldn't be an issue. But for many narrow-minded people it is a sign of "damaged goods." People are particularly concerned about petty stuff like this early in the process of searching for rishtas. It changes as the daughters get close to thirty and people realize they just want her to find a nice boy to settle down with who makes her happy.
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I agree with what others have said, but the issue is a delicate one. I doubt it would be an issue if the girl and boy liked each other and selected each other on their own. But when you're recommending a rishta it's like you're saying this is what your child is "worth." So people get uppity and insulted if the person being recommended isn't "perfect" because it reflects on how others perceive their own child.
Of course, the divorced parents shouldn't be an issue. But for many narrow-minded people it is a sign of "damaged goods." People are particularly concerned about petty stuff like this early in the process of searching for rishtas. It changes as the daughters get close to thirty and people realize they just want her to find a nice boy to settle down with who makes her happy.
anyway they have dropped because of the age difference it is 7 yrs
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7 years is also not an excuse to turn the rishta away.
cop-out alert.
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seems like it, 7 years means nothing.