Re: matam saterted…
yes such traditions are not hujjah on Shias but for those who gladly adhere to such traditions and deem the mourner to be among the people of Jaahilyah then they should abruptly throw same edict to the popular personalities who did matam, without any IFs and BUts. You are not allowed to bring one excuse and another for the matam Ayesha did, due to the fact the hadith you people happily throw for the extreme consequence of the mourner itself doesn’t gives any excuses or tells us certain ways out!
Like I just saw written in this thread that it was just the personal act of Ayesha etc etc. Does the hadith you people usually cite show such excemptions?
People always raise questions (though sometimes well intented) about the reason to mourn for the martytrs of Karbala. The reason behind this is same which was given by the Prophet of Allah [s] for His [s] lamentation for the martyred Jafar ibn Tayar [ra]:
Ibn Ishaq narrates that on the day when Hadhrat Jafar ibn Abi Talib was martyred in Ghazwa-e-Moutah; Holy Prophet (s) called upon Hadhrat Abdullah bin Jafar and made him sit on his lap and started kissing his forehead and eyes, while tears were flowing from his own Holy eyes.
The Sahaba inquired: “O Prophet of Allah! Is it so that some grieving news has come about Jafar that has made your tears flow?”
The Holy Prophet (s) replied: “Yes, Today Jafar has been martyred there, but the troubles and the plight that he went through before being martyred is very grieving.”
Tarikh Ibn Kathir.
So its the calamities confronted to the Shuhdah before their deaths for which we lament.
Also for those who deem that lamentation/mourning/hurting one ownself in grief (in any way) is against Islamic injunctions then I would like to ask the edict of such people against Prophet Yaqub [as] who cried so much in his giref for his lost son that he damaged his eyes in the end!Yet we see Quran calling him among patient ones.