i recently graduated with a bachelors.. 6 months later decided to do my masters.. did one semester.. now i dont know what to do..
do u think there is a need to do masters… i got into it thinking it may help my career.. but looking at the IT industry these days.. im not sure what will happen..
im not very fond of computers.. and i dont see myself working for the rest of my life.. im at that stage.. where my parents could get me married off any day (which wont be happening.. as i live in melbourne.. and paki guys are extinct)..
what would u do? do u think there is a need to continue studying? or do u think one degree is enuff? really confused…
hmmm serious? i dunno... its gonna take me 3 years.. and minimum cost would be 24k... i dont know if i wanna waste my money... i can imagine myself 6-7 years down the track being a housewife and looking after out p_kids..
Don’t do it if you are not going to pursue a career in I.T. If getting married and being a housewife is your priority then you should focus on that i.e go back to Pakistan and let your parents help you find a decent guy.
^ well being a housewife is not my priority.. just doing the right thing by my family... and future hubby.. so im just thinking whether i wanna go into debt when im not going to be able to pursue a career..
ive already done 4.5 years studying.. and 3 years working in IT.. not sure whether i wanna be doing this for the next 3-4 years..
yes going to pakistan.. lekin dont think im finding anyone there
ur potential future hubby is saying ... do what makes u happy... no pressure ... i want my p-wife to be independant ... i say burn that bra... break those chains ... down with that silly makeup... break free and run wild... be free...be wild... be the wind... be the bullet...be the woman u always wanted to be (as long as i get massages, breakfast in bed and stuff at a snap of my finger ..) KAPEESH?
^ hehehe very funny p_hubby... :) oh ive given up make up and all that other stuff u mentioned... i honestly dont reckon a female can ever be independant... i know bad bad bad.. but theres always something tying her down... first parents.. then if she gets married.. her hubby and his family.. then her kids..
although i dont think this is a bad thing.. more like security.... neways im off topic..
This sounds very obedient of you to be willing to sacrifice a career for someone who is not even in the picture yet (no disrespect to Gamma :-). Maybe your hubby wants you to study and get your masters. Are you sure you are in control of your life? You should be making your own decisions and if you feel masters is not for you then don’t blame it on others.
p.s btw there is nothing wrong with making a good housewife a priority.
^ oh no.. i wont be blaming anyone.. my decisions are mine even if they've been influenced by someone else... lekin sometimes there are other priorities in life..
masters is not something i wanted to do in the beginning.. more for my mama.. but ive seen how much it takes over my time.. therefore ive been thinking and contemplating whether i do wanna continue it and lose time spending with my fam... especially my mama..
yeah i dont know what the non existensce priority (hubby) would want from me.. but i guess as long as hes not existent i gotta make take a decision.. Allah Mian has brought me this far.. lets see what happens..
Interesting topic. Sadzzz, do you want to pursue your Masters? Would it be possible for you to continue pursuing it - say it takes you the next three years. Even if you are married in another 3 years subsequent to completing your Masters, at least you have that additional degree under your belt. i understand the time and money you would have invested and it might seem like a ‘waste’ once one is married - but the unfortunate part is, one never knows where life will take us. Who knows - maybe, one day, that additional degree could be of assistance down the road (just thinking in terms of a long-term view).
Of course i could be completely wrong; just my humble two cents.
yeah thats why im confused.. cus i dont know where life will take me.. to tell u the truth.. im only thinking of nect year.. i'll be 24 by then.. and if i calculate the years out.. i'll prob be about 26 by the time i finish... thats only if i dont fail a subject... :)
i wouldnt be thinking about this if i was studying Education or something to do with Social work.. cus thats where my interests lay... lekin hmm yeah thats another story..
2 weeks ago i had said i'll leave it to my exam results and then decide from there... but ive been doing constant duas each day.. and the more i do it.. the more im inclined to defer from masters for awhile... maybe its me who wants to stop.. or maybe its just Allah Mians way of saying.. yes.. stay home and take care of ur mama... dunno
If I were you …I would get married to a handsome guy and move on with life. No point in sitting in Melbourne wasting peak yrs of ma life. You have enough education to make a good living if required and if time permits you can always do your masters later.
Don't worry too much :)
^ thankz heaps Boss... i think thats what i wanted to hear hehe.. i dunno if im gonna get married to some handsome guy in paki... very highly unlikely.. everytime i go back.. theres some guy who 'is willing to move to australia' for me.. so that puts me off that idea altogether..
Inshallah something will work out..
p.s could you please give me address to ur friends college again... i need to send a money order..
If you don’t mind my asking, why didn’t you pursue that?
Speaking of “interests” - i’m doing international development studies, it wasn’t the easiest thing in the world to convince my family/friends i wanted to do it.
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aw. Could be.
i am sure whatever you will ultimately decide, it will be a wise decision Insha’Allah. Personally, if your heart is not in it (speaking from a year of academic experience here in studying something i hated), then perhaps it is not worth it in the long-term view.
Best of luck with whatever decision you ultimately make.
^ thanx Nadia :) yeah International Studies is really interesting.. i have two friends doing that... and i can see that they are very satisfied.. both started off with something they hated and transferred into the course..
i might take a semester off.. go to pakistan at the end of the year and then decide what i wanna do :) Inshallah i hope i make a good decision...
and yeah i know how tough it can be to convince the parents... right now.. i just wanna do whats right by my mama.. which is give her as much time as possible..
I know many person who did their MS in IT related Subject and still looking for decent career..
As far as Doing MS in concern it has the same impact as Bachlors degree in IT(nowadays)
