Maslak means sect, like shia, sunni etc. But what I am talking about is firqa. Like devband is a firqa etc. So the subject is “Firqa Problem”, I was confused b/w these 2 terms, when I started the topic. anyway.
I have a friend who is having this problem. She is in love with a guy but this guy belongs to a different firqa and girl follows different firqa and they both love each other (as I said earlier) but this firqa thingy is like a wall between them. No one can compromise on religion. Of course everybody thinks that what he/she is doing is right and rest of the world is wrong. My question is, should a guy and a girl get married, keeping in mind the factor of different beliefs? Since they both love each other but definitely there are some differences, which, could be a reason of, any kinda war in the future. What do you think is easier? Making a sacrifice for love or compromise for religion?
If the maslak/firqa have no major problem then they can maarry...other wise if both firmly belive they are on right path .....then they should sacrifice love......
The best thing (while looking at customs in Pakistan) is to get married in same fiqa and same caste!
We have differences with so many major issues…like ethnicity (province wise) …then comes to caste…then Shia-Sunnii…etc
All these are further divided into several branches!
Language! Which language do you speak!..
Ethnicity! Which city, which area …(e.g. Defense or Laloo khait)
Religious! Which Fiqha…which Maslak…
If Fiqha – Maslak is matched, then it comes to Language , …
If we pass this level then it comes to Caste…
This is all because of amateurish dim side of our culture…
On the basis of caste…human in Pakistan are being mortified… Girls in Sindh are being married with a newly born boy while girl is 30-40 (because lack of MAN in their family-caste) or even some times they were married with Quran
Similar things we can see in Balochistan as well… In Punjab we do have a strong caste system which won’t allow so many times marriage in other castes!
Keeping in mind all these aspect!..If some one managed to get marry in different caste-maslak-racial…One should keep in mind they might face difficulty in future…and this may be from husband-wife as well (and it may not)!
Personally, I do advise to get marry in same cultural and same maslak to avoid any conflict in future life… People’s brought up mostly in Pakistan is in such a way that; have less tolerance for other mind-set! BUT!!!
In the case of a love marriage… one should keep in mind they might have any conflict at any time which may cause some serious troubles!
These are my general views … but I have seen so many couples who got married in different culture and are living a happy life… reason behind was they were educated and had a love marriage or arranged marriage!
My one neighbour is shia-sunni… their half children are sunni and rest are shia… I have never seen any conflict in their life, every one is free to observe their religious matters…so mashAllah they are good!
