Re: Marrying your spouse's sibling
nephew was early 20's.....chachi was i think near 30.
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Oh okay. slightly less sick, but only slightly.
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Religiously speaking there are not restrictions except for that you can not have both in Nikkah at same time.
Other than religion it depends on many things specially how were the relations b/w two at the time 3rd person was alive.
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In the past 3 days i have come to know of at least 4 situations (US or Pak) in which a woman passed away and her husband married her sister, i.e. previously known as his sali....
I'm not sure what the religious stance is, but it seems to be perfectly acceptable in our culture...
Is it the same for a woman? if her husband passes away, she is free to marry her ex-jaith/devars?
Personally I can't imagine how the dynamics of such a relationship...or how it would be to suddenly have feelings for someone from your in laws...
Do you know of any situations?
Yes, my friend's mom married her husband's brother after husband passed away.
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Oh god, these stories are really getting weird and distasteful. Even though I believe in live and let live...uhhh..
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I personally cannot fathom such a thing. I know it happens but don't know of anyone that it has happened to.
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I would never even consider to marry my husbands brother or any relative..and I would never marry my sisters husband either, eww that even sounds so weird and gross for me. Im really close to all my first cousins, so I would never marry my first cousins either because for me they are just like brothers. I know that its acceptable and really I dont have anything agaist marrying cousin or husbands brother etc but I know I just could never do that. But like ppl are different and in different situations, so i think we cant judge anyone for marrying example husbands brother, if it`s not forced marriage.
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If it naturally happens, thats one thing but forcing it onto someone just to keep the family together is creepy to say the least.
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IMO, Marrying 'anyone' second time is the WEIRDEST things of all after having a relationship with a person for sometime (months/ years whatever)... although one is helpless in these matters but I still think if one relationship ends (for whatever reason), it is not mandatory to enter into a second relationship just for the sake of it... we can all live happily without entering into a relationship (but it really depends on how independent the person is)... marrying the brother etc EWWWWW is an absolute No No... IMO Shadi aik hi dafa honi chahiyay and guy/ girl should not be forced into a marriage second time either to ex spouse brother/ sister or anyone else...
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IMHO, no one should be forced into a marriage first time either. If a spouse passes away or the marriage doesn't work, there is nothing wrong in getting married again. I think such people should be encouraged to get married again. Life is too long, you do not want to spend it alone, a companion can make the journey somewhat easy.
Marrying spouse's sib is not something I would prefer unless the two people want and are genuinely happy about it.
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When these ppl marry their spouse's sibling don't they ever think 'my brother/sister would hate me sleeping with their other half'?? If I died I would want mine to remarry and be happy - but the thought of him having sex with my sister (luckily I don't have one lol) makes me want to throw up..
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Out of all the people in the world why on Earth would someone pick the sibling? No matter how legitimate such a marriage is, I find the concept awkward at the very least.
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My FIL married my MIL after her sister died!!!!! He didn't had kids with his 1st wife. I still can't understand why he married my MIL....
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My grandpa married his SIL after the death of his wife. He then later on married thrice with a new lady when 2nd wife also died... However he could not make 4th marriage cuz he himself passed away 14 years earlier before his 3rd wife!
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Well it must vary from person to person and family to family, but personally I find that rather disturbing.
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well isnt’ there a saying? Saali aadhi ghar wali..takes on a whole new meaning..
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i got a story to share thats even more weird....
a guy died.....and the family of the guy wanted his nephew ( the son of the dead guy's brother) to marry his widowed chachi.......the boy (nephew) refused.....and he got beat up by his own uncles.....the chachi had agreed but the boy refused even after getting beaten up..
and you must be thinking, is it even halal to marry to chachi??
the answer is yes.......your chachi is not related to you via bloodline (as the khala,phuphi).....hence it is allowed..
OMG, Pakistan never ceases to amaze me!