Does a widow HAVE TO marry her deceased husband’s brother, if he has one?
In turn, does a man have to marry his brother’s widow in the event his brother dies?
Is this practice encouraged, or is there extra sawab for such a marriage?
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In turn, does a man have to marry his brother's widow in the event his brother dies?
Why "HAVE TO"? They can marry after her Id'att if they both agree.
Religiously yes, socially, thats a Big NO NO.Specially in our desi culture.
People claim that they love Prophet (s) and his sunnah but when it comes to their personal lives thats only Zabaani Kalaami. Ever heared someone married his young son to a 40 year old widow or someone gave his 6/9 yo daughter to an old man just to show their love to Prophet (s) and to follow his sunnah??
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^ Yeh! WHY 'Have to'
Is there's something that you know and we don't?
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Its Recommended but Not Mandatory
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It isn't something fard.
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its not a must, and neither is there anythnig wrong with it....
i guess it all depends on the family and what they decide is best to do....
have heard of incidents in our area in pakistan where such marriage did take plae and have also heard where a brother's widow was kicked out by the family along with her kids....
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***Pakhtuns have custom of levirate marriage, which is the custom when a husband dies without children, his brother marries the widow to keep the name of the house. This custom no longer exists today, but was an ancient Israeli custom mentioned in the Bible (Deuteronomy 25:5-6). ***
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agree with everyone, its not NECESSARY but it can be done!
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Where did you get “recommended” part?
Just like everything else (marrying woman to Quran or to statue in case of Hindus) this sorta ‘custom’ of marrying a widow with children to deceased’s brother is to keep the family wealth from going outside…
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164) Narrated Mujahi: (regarding the Verse):-- "Those of you who die and leave wives behind. They - (their wives) -- shall wait (as regards their marriage ) for four months and ten days)." (2.234) The widow, according to this Verse, was to spend this period of waiting with her husband's family, so Allah revealed: "Those of you who die and leave wives (i.e. widows) should bequeath for their wives, a year's maintenance and residences without turning them out, but if they leave (their residence), there is no blame on you for what they do with themselves provided it is honorable.' (i.e. lawful marriage) (2.240). So Allah entitled the widow to be bequeathed extra maintenance for seven months and twenty nights, and that is the completion of one year. If she wished she could stay (in her husband's home) according to the will, and she could leave it if she wished, as Allah says: "..without turning them out, but if they leave (the residence), there is no blame on you." So the 'Idda (i.e. four months and ten days as it) is obligatory for her. 'Ata said: Ibn 'Abbas said, "This Verse, i.e. the Statement of Allah: "..without turning them out.." cancelled the obligation of staying for the waiting period in her dead husband's house, and she can complete this period wherever she likes." 'Ata's aid: If she wished, she could complete her 'Idda by staying in her dead husband's residence according to the will or leave it according to Allah's Statement:-- "There is no blame on you for what they do with themselves." 'Ata' added: Later the regulations of inheritance came and abrogated the order of the dwelling of the widow (in her dead husband's house), so she could complete the 'Idda wherever she likes. And it was no longer necessary to provide her with a residence. Ibn 'Abbas said, "This Verse abrogated her (i.e. widow's) dwelling in her dead husband's house and she could complete the 'Idda (i.e. four months and ten days) wherever she liked, as Allah's Statement says:--"...without turning them out..." (Book #60, Hadith #54) bukhari
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Though the marrying of widow to a brother is allowed, the rest you posted is totally haram and shirk!
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it might be allowed but i think its kinda icky.
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Ok ok no need to vent anger that you got married to your fiance's brother.. :)
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yes lets not discuss that plz! ^^
as for marrying husbands brother.. well why not? its all about keeping it in the family.. especially if kids are involved.