Re: Marrying Within Ethnicity
The guys who I come across who can't speak English and are uneducated living in the US are typically from the North.
Fallenpieta, I love Karachi and it's people. We are so awesome.
I do not agree with you because you are now generalising and think that most educated and modern people are from Karachi and others are not as openminded as Karachiiets. I myself was born and grew up in Karachi and i think what are saying is totally discriminatoray Gudia. I think as ethnic and muslim living in the West you should know better. Thats exactly the way the West thinks about non Westerns and specially Muslims and Pakistanis that they are PAINDOO's and believe me they do not care or differentiate wether you are from karachi or not.
In Pakistan there are 180 million people and how many of them did you meet to conclude they are not Westernised. I think you should pay a visit to Lahore or other cities in Pakistan (except Karachi) then you will see how "modernised" "liberal" or "not-so-old fashioned" they are.
Don't forget not all memons are openminded i know most memons are conservative and they do not like to mix for some reason i never understand. I also know that not all memons live in karachi there are memons who live in Africa, India or even in Punjab. Dont misunderstand me i love them nothing against them but every group and ethnicity have their own problems and culture and thats what we have to cherish.
i actually agree.
The guys who I come across who can't speak English and are uneducated living in the US are typically from the North.
Fallenpieta, I love Karachi and it's people. We are so awesome.
now that is what i call PAINDO'ISM
:)
with all due respect Gudia
you really dissapoint me and you totally contradict yourself when you say your openminded. Since when has speaking English got to do being educated?
i think what you said was very insulting and discriminatory to most milliions of people from north as u call it.
Re: Marrying Within Ethnicity
Um, yes, I want a husband who speaks proper English as it is my primary language. If you have gone to an English medium school and you still can't string a sentence together, you're not very educated, IMHO.
Um, yes, I want a husband who speaks proper English as it is my primary language. If you have gone to an English medium school and you still can't string a sentence together, you're not very educated, IMHO.
onee shok aftre anothe sokc u giveth me pyaari si gudia
ther ar so meny english speeking men in the contry so pick and choose
i know some1 who lives on streeat and beggs for foodd believe me he speak better English then youw........free tip ;)
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Does he speak it like the way you type?
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Does he speak it like the way you type?
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hmmm are u attempting me to talk Gudia? :)
it might work if u try one more time
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C'mon, people, where is the love? Just cuz we don't all want to intermarry with each other doesn't mean we can't be friends... :)
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one of my really good friends is punjabi, when I go to her house I don't really sense much difference in her household than mine, however another friend of mine is hyderabaadi and when I'm at her place, it seems sooo different for me.
It all depends on what you are comfortable with and go with that. I've seen memons marrying urdu speaking and punjabis, and those marriages are working out just fine masha'Allah sey :)
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C'mon, people, where is the love? Just cuz we don't all want to intermarry with each other doesn't mean we can't be friends... :)
love
is in the air
its everywhere
just look around
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Gudiya if u cant relate with punjabis, that means u cannot relate with 62% of pakistan.Beleive me its not that hard.U r takin too much pressure!We also have a lot of business minded families that are fairly popular in karachi like chinioties etc.
love
is in the air
its everywhere
just look around
Group hug?
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OF course...Its natural to feel comfrotable with people that are like you.
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^ True, it's only natural to be comfortable with people that are like you. I think marriage as it is, is hard work and takes a lot of effort. To top it off with a person from another nationality or religion makes it a lot harder. I think being Pakistani and being a different ethnicity shouldn't matter much but I think it's the older generation that is more hell bent on such things.
But I really respect people who are from different religions/countries and still make a marriage work! Kudos to them!
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I can't believe you said that.
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It's better that way...marrying within your people.
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Before marriage everyone thinks and looks for people within certain parameters but once your married it is all different. For example you could be a Punjabi and end up marrying a Sindhi for god knows. However yes, I agree with Hareem baji that mingling with your own people is far more comfortable but does not mean there will be less problems. Sometimes there could be more problems if you married a Punjabi instead of Sindhi for example.
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Yes, please spare people from the North.