Marrying Within Ethnicity

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@PyariCgudia

Thanks fallenpieta. I’ll be sure to call them when I head up to new york this season?

I am pretty open-minded and up until now have been purposefully looking outside my community. But I just keep running into people that think and do things very differently from myself and my family. We don’t have certain expectations and traditions you find in other ethnicities in Pakistan. Especially traditions like I described. I’d love to meet someone more like myself who is of a different community, but I think its hard to meet people who were not from Karachi who are very modernized, open-minded, educated, and not tribal.

I think the majority of Pakistan thinks Tribal, but people from Karachi don’t really have that, as we live in a huge metropolitan city. Its not a glorified village, like Lahore or Islamabad. We’re loud. We’re blunt. We’re active people, and we’re fairly westernized in our thinking. At least the Karachi crowd I know. But then if I meet people from other places in Pakistan, I find that they are too conservative and old-fashioned.

I do not agree with you because you are now generalising and think that most educated and modern people are from Karachi and others are not as openminded as Karachiiets. I myself was born and grew up in Karachi and i think what are saying is totally discriminatoray Gudia. I think as ethnic and muslim living in the West you should know better. Thats exactly the way the West thinks about non Westerns and specially Muslims and Pakistanis that they are PAINDOO’s and believe me they do not care or differentiate wether you are from karachi or not.

In Pakistan there are 180 million people and how many of them did you meet to conclude they are not Westernised. I think you should pay a visit to Lahore or other cities in Pakistan (except Karachi) then you will see how “modernised” “liberal” or “not-so-old fashioned” they are.

Don’t forget not all memons are openminded i know most memons are conservative and they do not like to mix for some reason i never understand. I also know that not all memons live in karachi there are memons who live in Africa, India or even in Punjab. Dont misunderstand me i love them nothing against them but every group and ethnicity have their own problems and culture and thats what we have to cherish.