Happyheart I think you and I definitely agree more than we disagree on this.
But from reading PCG’s past threads, I think she has kept a pretty open mind to all Muslim guys. But she is noticing a pattern that she just feels more comfortable with other Memon guys. So if that floats her boat, I don’t see the problem. She’s not starting from a place of racism, bias, etc., actually she started her marriage search from a place of an open mind and this was just what seems to be working for her a little better now that she has had the chance to interact with a number of possible marriage prospects.
My sister married a guy from our hometown in rural New England. He’s a total country redneck—very nice guy, but you know, he loves his tractor, never wants to leave the country, etc. He has a very similar background to my family, and we all went to high school together. I know my sister is very open-minded, and she has always been open-minded and loving with my Pakistani husband and his family and when I converted to Islam. And if her daughters made choices like mine to marry outside the community I know she would be very supportive. But for her, she just felt comfortable with a husband who shared her childhood memories, upbringing, etc. Being open-minded doesn’t mean you have to be personally be the epitome of diversity.