You make a good point. On a side note: I still can't get over your prior statement that “It was then later found out, through investigation, that the guy was impotent.” How exactly was this “investigation” conducted? Would you say it was sufficiently 'rigorous'? ;-)
Very true. Some idiot fool actually went ahead married my stalker (on short notice, no less)! On the face of things, one almost can't blame her: he's handsome, has a medical degree and a very exotic background. But if someone proposes to you shortly after meeting you, without even introducing you to his family first (a rogues gallery of 'fasiqs' and 'munafiqs', as they say), you'd be bound by common sense to ask some questions. Not this girl: she said yes without hesitation and was married a few months shortly. I can certainly understand her motivation: when you're not particularly photogenic (I'm being extremely kind in my description) but some well educated, handsome stranger meets you and wishes to get married right away, you'd probably jump at the chance. Sure, you'd want your families to meet before you'll agree to something like marriage, but that would only be common sense and this silly b*tch has none. The groom is (in my experience) a stalker, a liar and a complete sociopath, but I still can't feel sorry for the girl; if something seems too good to be true, it probably is.
PS: Sorry, I posted the unedited version of your reply.
I'm not sure, Rox. This was a story that my friend has shared years ago, so don't remember the details as to how that information came out....or even if my friend told me. Sometimes, information (that you try your best to hide)....comes out through others. My friend used the word impotent.....perhaps she meant infertile. She said that it became known later on.....don't know how exactly. Not sure. It could have been that the guy was married before....had problems with his former wife....and it came out in the open. Or perhaps it was another source. I'm just guessing here, cuz I don't know the details.
It reminds me of this drama with Mahnoor Baloch and Nauman Ijaz. They have difficulty conceiving and go to the doctor. The tests reveal that he's the one with the fertility issues. He feels that undermines his masculinity........so he lies and tells his wife that SHE is the one who is infertile. He divorces her.....she marries another man. Nauman still loves her and tries to convince her to get a divorce from the second husband and come back to him. She wants to return to Nauman......but finds herself preggers......goes to the SAME doctor......and finds out from the doc that her former husband had the problem. Had she gone to the doctor in the first place to reconfirm the "diagnosis"......so much time would have been saved. It's weird how things come out.....and when they come out.
I know of true examples.....where Alhumdolillah NOW the individuals are well-settled........but formerly the families did not do a thorough investigation. Sometimes......as in the case of your stalker.....the evidence is staring you right in the face. You sense that something isn't right....you don't get a good vibe.....but relatives try to convince you that the person is rich, what have you. Other times.....it's not staring you in the face. THINGS seem perfect! All the qualities are there.......and then you find something out through other people.......or these days through websites like facebook, etc.
It's alright if you've posted the unedited version, I've shared this story before in other threads. Alhumdolillah, the individual is now well-settled and happy. At the last moment, I decided to simplify it without the story.