so if u have to marry someone of a lesser league…how is it??
no im not discriminating…and by league i dnt mean equality on basis of riches and money..
but mental maturity..mutual understanding..and job related things..
and specialy when a girl has to marry a guy like that??
coz guy marrying such girl wnt be much of an issue i think…
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that would be rather unfortunate cuz it would mean ur going into a marriage looking down on somebody albiet intellectually-no mutual respect hence no solid foundation. run
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but dnt we adapt to things and stop complaining abt them eventually??
maybe the girl settle in with this as well...its going to be a one time compromise on your whole life..
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I think mental maturity is very important otherwise you would start looking down on that person and thats unfair and not good for the relationship. There are some people who can eaisly adjust to that but for most it the difference wl haunt them. So its def not healthy for the relationship.
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My dad always says a husband should be at least at the same mental level as you or more than you. Otherwise you won't ever give that person the respect he deserves as a husband. I agree.
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But the problem is: How can a man stoop so low to be at a woman’s mental level 
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they should be equal or more or less at same level unless some time women wish to be full time house wife and its ok with the hubby. but in reality i have seen many knowingly or un knowingly gone in to such marriages where they just married a layman while they are professionals in their fields. you will find many successful bankers, medics, or other science professionals married to almost unparh lot who has low or zero skills. I am talking more about when girls are brought up in the west. it goes less for the boys here any more back home, where culturally its common to find a professional guy married to complete illiterate from the family.
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Better to marry someone at your 'level' unless you are Professor Henry Higgins.
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@Scarface! lol ... Play nice bro.
I totally beleive woman are equivallent of men in every aspect EXCEPT woman have more patience!
BUT THEY SHOULD NOT DRIVE! :p
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so if u have to marry someone of a lesser league...how is it?? no im not discriminating...and by league i dnt mean equality on basis of riches and money.. but mental maturity..mutual understanding..and job related things.. and specialy when a girl has to marry a guy like that?? coz guy marrying such girl wnt be much of an issue i think...
Grow up and snap out of it. You don't "HAVE" to marry this guy if you are so averse to him.
If you can't muster up enough courage to stand your ground in spite of family opposition........then people can question your mental maturity as well. You didn't have to waste your time and this guy's time by being engaged to him for so long. Had you stuck to your guns with consistency from the get-go.....there may not have been a ring or impending wedding plans to contend with.
Analyzing compatibility on the threads isn't going to get you out of this mess. That would require action...and being proactive on your part.
As for mental maturity.........it's not always in a constant state. You can learn from others as people have different perspectrives on things.
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If you think you're "out" of someones league, you really shouldn't be marrying them.
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hmmmmmm I agree with dubaiwali, my parents say the same.
When i started a thread like this before i was told i was stupid and should lower my standards, maybe i didnt express myself properly :s
But i dont think you should marry someone who cant resepct.
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If you can't respect someone and if you will be complaining for the rest of your life DON'T marry them. No one has the right to put someone through misery. It is hard having to adjust into a different family but if there is a lot of difference then please don't even think about it. If you are used to a certain style of living then marrying someone who can't provide that is like digging your own grave ( well not really but hopefully you got the jist of it). As far as degrees and jobs are concerned I guess it depends on everyone's mentality and opinions.
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I read somewhere that if the woman is better looking or equal then the marriage has a chance to last longer. This is because the guy would work harder (emotionally etc) in a relationship with a woman who is out of his league physically while the woman would get a more committed guy and since this stuff (non looks based, emotional stuff) is more important to women than looks, she's happy as well.
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Well... If that person is out our league then you shouldnt consider them for marriage.
If you mean interms of mentality and maturity.. their mentality should definetely be intune with yours because as life progress you both will have to make life decisions which require a sensible mentality and a great deal of maturity. There times when you can act silly and playful but to make it work you both need to be in the same boat. Im sorry you can compromise but in order for you to do that you need to have the correct mentality/maturity.
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I am not sure what this means as far as "lesser league".. If this thought has come to your mind you shouldn't bother to consider this person as your mate since your marriage will be a mess. Husband deserves to be respected and with this thinking it wouldn't be fair to marry him and treat him poorly.
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How do you go about determining whether a person is in your league? Are there charts and tables one can consult?
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^ Not specifically charts and tables, but there are documents to prove bank balance, property owned and education.
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Documentation can be easily faked. I suggest more vigorous testing.
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^ Like make him spend some money on you to make sure he has it?