Re: marrying some one ur parents dont like
same for me! AH things are going very well, my parents love him and respect him once they've gotten to know him, and have seen that not only are he and i happy together but MA he's also able to provide a happy and stable home for us, which is a huge thing for parents in general but especially desi parents. it'll be a year for us in august too iA :)
and you're very right OD- it will never work out unless you're both in it together and both committed to seeing it through regardless of who says what. parental pressure is a powerful thing and it absolutely ****s with your head, so you have to both be REALLY ready and willing to take this on.
and yes, i agree parents have foresight sometimes however that doesn't automatically make them right... its important to recognize they're also human beings and just as prone to making mistakes as you or i. in the end, you have to spend your life with this guy, so make sure its the right call for you.
Yeah, I have a stable home and my in-laws live right downstairs but I mean I like it that way cuz then I can go see them whenever I want and my MIL always has something cooked when I get home from work, she's the greatest. =)......not to mention I'm only 3 mins from where my mom lives and if she's home by herself sometimes, then I go str8 there from work and spend a couple of hours with her. So it all works out.
And yeah, I mean it can't be only one-sided where only one person is fighting to get married and the other doesn't care, then what's the point? Me and my husband knew that we wouldn't get married to anyone else and so we fought and argued with both of our parents and eventually my mom came around and said ok and we got married with a short amount of time to prepare everything but MashaAllah everything went well and now here we are. I mean it took about 2 years for my mom and his parents to come around, we were just exhausted and stressed. Congrats to you too! I think we both got married around the same time, lol.
I agree with you too, parents do know best but that's most of the time, not all of the time. I know my mom knows me well but I couldn't see myself with someone else and then getting to know them after marriage, I guess it was too big of a risk for meself personally.
For desichick, I'd talk with the guy first and see where he's at and if he's willing to marry and fight for you, it can't be one sided. You can't just be the only one in love and he doesn't love you back. There's no point in putting your parents thru all of that. Both you and the guy have to be in it together willingly and knowingly or else in this case, your parents are right.