Re: marrying some one ur parents dont like
On the contrary, I married someone whom my mom was not too fond of but I fought and now I'm happily married and it will be a year in August. It was very hard to convince her but I knew that I wouldn't be happy with anyone else. And my mom knows I'm happy and she knows I'm fine and that my husband and in laws are taking care of me. My mom and my sisters are perfectly fine with everything, MashaAllah it's all going well.
But with your situation, you said that you have to get the guy to like you first, i mean me and my husband were both in this together, shouldn't the guy know that you want to marry him?
same for me! AH things are going very well, my parents love him and respect him once they've gotten to know him, and have seen that not only are he and i happy together but MA he's also able to provide a happy and stable home for us, which is a huge thing for parents in general but especially desi parents. it'll be a year for us in august too iA :)
and you're very right OD- it will never work out unless you're both in it together and both committed to seeing it through regardless of who says what. parental pressure is a powerful thing and it absolutely ****s with your head, so you have to both be REALLY ready and willing to take this on.
and yes, i agree parents have foresight sometimes however that doesn't automatically make them right... its important to recognize they're also human beings and just as prone to making mistakes as you or i. in the end, you have to spend your life with this guy, so make sure its the right call for you.