topic closed for me haha
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Depends on how you were raised. I was always told that my female cousins were my sisters. So like you said, I could never imagine myself marrying one of them. But that is not the case with all the families, so it does't seem odd to them. We can't judge everyone based on what we consider to be the norm.
....please please dont feel offended! i didnt open this topic to hurt anyones feelings :s
why did you open it then? :)
i read a lot of times that ppl in this forum are married to their 1st cousins..im from europe im like an EXTREMLY traditional pakistani but this would be just a no-go for me! like they are like your brothers/sisters and you maybe even used to call them BHAI or BEHEN/BAJI... hello?? how can you marry someone like this?
please please dont feel offended! i didnt open this topic to hurt anyones feelings :s
Depends on how you were raised. I was always told that my female cousins were my sisters. So like you said, I could never imagine myself marrying one of them. But that is not the case with all the families, so it does't seem odd to them. We can't judge everyone based on what we consider to be the norm.
yes, right.
why did you open it then? :)
hmm..just wanted to know what you all think about it..im gonna edit it now lol
Re: marrying own cousin
OP right i agree but you know its different for everyone. There are love marriages too within famlies.
plus most of the times parents feel it more secure to give their daughter within family then trusting on someone totally stranger.
Re: marrying own cousin
and sometimes the gal is not getting any good proposals so all she is left with is to marry one of her cousins :hinna:
Agree with Janwar, depends on how two cousins look at their relationship. If they see each other as brother and sister good, if not still good for them!
I am married to my first cousin.. and I am not ashamed about it at all! Alhumdulliah I am blessed to be married to such a wonderful person so be it that he is my cousin..
The only thing I guess one should remember is that mehram person for a women is not her cousin so she can get married to anyone non-mehram person.. Many here say it's a no-go for them but there is no reason to deny a perfectly good proposal for that reason.. I think :).. Once you get nikahed your feelings change for that person.. my husband liked me before we got married but respected me enough to never say anything to me.. although we lived far apart maybe that contributed to not having much awkwardness I guess
I am married to my first cousin.. and I am not ashamed about it at all! Alhumdulliah I am blessed to be married to such a wonderful person so be it that he is my cousin.. The only thing I guess one should remember is that mehram person for a women is not her cousin so she can get married to anyone non-mehram person.. Many here say it's a no-go for them but there is no reason to deny a perfectly good proposal for that reason.. I think :).. Once you get nikahed your feelings change for that person.. my husband liked me before we got married but respected me enough to never say anything to me.. although we lived far apart maybe that contributed to not having much awkwardness I guess
well god bless you two :)
thx to all of you for the replies. it kind of makes sense to me now
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I am going to be married to my first cousin too. I was never close to my male cousins; my dad made sure of it.....I got yelled at once when I talked to one who was a year older than me and was living with his family in the same apartment with us....So no it doesn't bother me. Also, my family is used to it, we don't care. For me, it's better than being married to a random person you don't know and you don't even know how they'll treat you.
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There is no shame in marrying cousin unless you have some health and law considerations. Other things to consider is your relationship with the particular cousin. I added law because in many states of US, marrying cousin is a CRIMINAL offence...