Marrying into an Indian Muslim Family

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Re: Marrying into an Indian Muslim Family

@Khalil KhaaN FaaKhta

these days, women want a ‘bed of roses’ in a marriage. well, you have to marry and do all you can to make your marriage a ‘bed of roses’. men are not exempt, they are equal partners in making that ‘bed of roses’…he has to go out and bring those roses and help you decorate it.

shaadii se pahle hii ‘phooloN kii sej’ banii banaayii, sajii sajaaii aur saNwrii saNwraaii nahiiN milaa kartii…is sej ke liye meHnat darkaar hai…miyaaN biwii donoN mil kar is sej ko banaate haiN, sajaate haiN, saNwaarte haiN.

agree with khalil…100%… marriage is about compromise, respect, and patience in good and bad times.

I am married in an Indian muslim family(by my choice) and that too from south india. North indian are generally much similar to pakistanis than south indians. There will always be few things here and there that may not seem 100% ideal but if pros outweigh cons then they can be ignored.

There is no such thing as dehli wale, that is just family thing, there are aunty type of MILS who would like to show off material well being and all, tu as long as she is not comparing your family and her directly tu there is no harm in her yapping about it. My MIL is like that too

Indian I find generally are a bit different, they are more open minded, and depends on family, more cultured in some ways(I am waiting for stones to be thrown at me from guppans) most of the indian muslim families I know from north or south are livable, less show offy than pakistanis and civilized.

The only thing concerning for me would be why he doesnt want you to work afterwards, do you want to?? wagerah..

One important thing to remember is that if you end up getting married to this guy you should try to strengthen your relationship with him(primary) and his family(secondary) and not be bothered by he has a strong relationship with his sister etc. Also guys who have seen there mothers as head of household dont mind (in most cases) their own wife as a decision maker in their immediate family in future. But this MIL looking like agge agge and head of everything could be a facade too, my FIL does this with my MIL, and my MIL end up being the bad one during negative situations, lakin behind the scene it is all my FIL who puppets everyone around LOLZZZZZ )

Also being attached to ones family could be a good sign, it mean he really take his relationships seriously and take care of them, might work in your favor. I have seen guys here in north america who are not very close to their biological families and they end up having the same attitude towards wife after shadi, just my observation.

good luck…BTW to clarify my background I was raised in canada, and my hubby moved here after high school, his parents and most of his family still lives in india and they visit frequently.