The success of a marriage totally depends on the mentality of the couple.
Status may cause little problem, but if both partners are sincere then this
problem can easily be solved. In our society it is not seen as a good sign to
marry someone not in the same social status. But sometimes parents look for
quality over the social or financial status.
Normally parents look for a bride or groom in the same class of their own.
But in many cases there are exceptions of this regular gesture. If they are
looking for a groom for their daughter and they select someone having a lower
status, it is obvious that the groom has a strong personality and honesty. The
parents of a bride usually go for a lower class groom if he is honest and has a
good character. Another important parameter for selecting a lower class groom if
the boy is self made, industrious and practical. For choosing a lower class
bride, the parents prefer beauty and good character.
In many cases, the class difference has a vital role for an unsuccessful married life. It is easy to understand that a lower class partner will not be able to support his or her partner in all the way. Their mentality will be different and have different attitude towards life. The life ideology will also be different. A person from a lower standard is not capable doing proper social attitude in different situations. He or she will also not be able to understand his or her partner totally. A big problem is the middle class mentality which may cause conflict in every steps of the married life.
On the other hand, if the parents select someone from a lower class, they
make sure that he or she is good enough to keep balance with their daughter or
son. They usually go for a practical and educated boy while selecting him as the
groom for their daughter. So it would not be very difficult for the educated boy
to understand his bride in very short time and make himself capable of doing
appropriate behavior. He will also get to learn the psychology of his wife very
fast and grows as an equal partner. So the chance of unsuccessful married life
disappears. In case of selecting a girl as the daughter in law by the parents of
the groom, the problem of misunderstanding can be solved. When the parents
select a girl, they make sure that the girl has a good and gentle character. So
she can be taught to be smart enough to be an identical partner of her husband.
Also if the girl is enough intelligent, she may learn all the high society
gesture quickly and give her husband total support.
It is not easy to gain aristocrat attitude very quickly, but with time the
newlywed bride or groom may learn many things from the higher society and over
generation the gap will fade away?
