Marrying in 30's

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So have you guys seen girls who got married in their 30’s or those are just exceptional cases?

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I do know of a few people. Most of the girls i know did get married early. However i still have quite a few friends who are not married and we are in our late twenties. So it just depends.

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What do you think are the reasons of delay?

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I know a few got married lately and even popped babies. It all goes well.

But why do you ask OP?

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Some other piorities career/education for others did not really find good rishtas till 30+ because i guess that was thier fate.

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Fate

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In my social circle it’s kind of become the norm. I’m hitting 30 this year and half my female friends and classmates aren’t married. Heck, I got married at 28 so I was hardly a poster child for child marriages. Everyone’s got a life of their own either buying houses, building businesses or whatever so they’re busy getting stuff done before they get married and hit a full stop because of society pressures and what not.

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So true…

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I got married after 30.

Most of the desi girls in my inner circle also got married in their 30’s (all these girls as highly educated with good careers and growing up, getting married wasn’t their #1](http://gupshup.org/gs/usertag.php?do=list&action=hash&hash=1) priority in life). They took the time to finish their education and have a stable career before marriage/kids.

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Times are changing now especially the girls who pursue career and wait for the suitable alliance to happen, take their time and continue with other priorities in life. I think Allah has made everyone’s fate different. I have friends who got married very early and regret for not being able to live their lives. Then there are some hitting 30s and happily single and exploring life so it depends..

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And then there are 30+ single and not happy and early married ones who are happy.
All kinds exist

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Yes and they lived to tell the tale!!!

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I think it is refreshing to see women get married instead of girls/teenagers. Sure it may have worked back in the days or in Pakistan, but times are different now. I see more people get divorced in their early twenties, then later on when both boys and girls have matured. It helps to be settled too ie education wise or career wise. Both individuals have a fallback in case things don’t work out.

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In our Desi culture, there is stigma attached to women marrying past the age of 25 . She is considered, old, on the shelf and other things and ineligible . Or what is wrong with her?

A man on the other hand is considered eligible no matter what his age .

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If I am not mistaken there are more boys than girls there then why do many people act like there are many girls per guy and guys are looking for more than they have to offer in return? I have seen much older guys getting married to younger girls.

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I was under the impression there are more women v men.

I have seen guys in their late 20’s - early 30’s marrying girls who have just gotten out of high school, and I am talking about the USA.

Desi Aunty’s taunt and make digs at unmarried young women.

  1. Bechaari is too educated
  2. There MUST be something wrong with her.
  3. Can’t control her
  4. Too old
  5. Future children will have disabilities and she is not fertile enough.

I have heard the above from the most paindu folks AND from well educated and liberal folks.

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Here is a bit of an eye opening Census info. These aunties need to get a hold of reality. I see some boys approaching 40s as mommies are kiboshing the union or causing divorces. They are putting auntiism ahead of their childrens well being.

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Population
201,995,540 (July 2016 est.)

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Age structure
**0-14 years: **31.99% (male 33,195,073/female 31,429,440)
**15-24 years: **21.31% (male 22,194,064/female 20,845,816)
**25-54 years: **36.87% (male 38,680,978/female 35,794,333)
**55-64 years: **5.43% (male 5,498,126/female 5,463,453)
**65 years and over: **4.4% (male 4,139,899/female 4,754,358) (2016 est.)
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Wow!
And I was under the impression that there were more females than males.

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Since men die younger the total population numbers get skewed, in marriage age there are more men.

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I so agree! I’m sure my in-laws used 1-4 to talk my husband out of marrying me and, they’re very well educated!