I falled in love with a hindu and its been years since we are going out and now we are thinking to get engaged, and i wanna know, is it ok if i convert her into muslim and then marry her ? Anyone have suggestions about whats negative and whats positive?
FurQan from Toronto,
As-salam alaikum. I don't see any harm in marrying the lady if she converts to Islam. In fact, if you are instrumental in converting her to Islam then inshallah you will be rewarded for that.
I have 2 examples of ladies who converted to Islam in my family before marriage. One of them has been educated about Islam completely, she practices Islam, teaches it to her children and is convinced of it. The other, it seems, only converted to marry her husband and has now separated, has no interest in Islam, does not teach to her children and is not convinced of it any more.
What I feel is that in the first case, the husband played a huge role in teaching Islam to his wife and passing on the enthusiasm and passion for following Islam. In the second case, the husband did not make any effort to teach Islam to the wife and was satisfied with her verbal conversion only.
It will be up to you to influence this lady in the correct manner to ensure that she is convinced of Islam of her own accord, thus bringing harmony to your household and acting as a good influence to your future children inshallah.
I guess your right my friend SPECIAL2
very depressing sotry.
Thanx
How are you? Well, this is one thing that I dont understand about Muslims. You have been going out with her for a long time. This is considered Haram in Islam. You are not allowed to date a girl before marriage. Did u not consider this act as a 'Haram'? Then you wanna make her muslim (before marriage) so that you can have sex with her, this is not Islam my friend. First try to be a better Muslim yourself then worry about reverting others to Islam.
There is no harm if she reverts to Islam for the sake of Allah (swt), not so that she can marry you. If she accepts Islam so that your marriage would be lawful, then that marriage is considered void and invalid.
I am not trying to be harsh here my friend. If I sound so, that's only my concern for my fellow muslims who have gone astray or not practicing Islam accordingly.
Thanks.
HomiD