have a bit of a problem…hopefully u guys can help me out…
basically a few months ago i overheard my mum talking to my aunty on the phone and she was saying that she wouldnt want her daughter(me) marry a guy from back home..at the time i was over the moon cos id heard soooo many stories bout guys coming from pak and basically using the girl for a visa…so anyway i was just soo happy…
BUT then i went to pakistan in the summer and basically fell in love with a guy (doh!) and now i dont know what to do…lik i know hes genuine and he doesnt just want to be with me cos of where im from cos he actually wants to stay in pak and blah blah…hes at uni at the moment doing a degree..
but like my parents are always like why would girls from here want to marry guys from back home..they are so different they hav a different approach to life…blah blah
You need to get rid of "blah blah blah" from your life.
Then you will be able to see things clearly.
If you do have to live with "blah" then cut that guy lose, don't make him miserable.
just talk to ur parents
have them meet the guy n his family n really see that his genuine
at the end .. ur parents know wuts best for u
i left my rishta decision up to them and God and im happy with it
sorry bout the blah blah lol..!!! thanks for the advice guys!
uhm yea the guys fam are family friends so its not all that bad....
but is soooo true guys from back home are so sweet and sensitive...they actually want a relationship..i was so shocked cos u hear things and its the other way round..it just shows u shouldnt stereotype right?
If you like the guy from back home I'm sure your parents wouldn't have a severe issue with it. They will sit down and warn you about seriously consider the risks of it, but from what you said it sounds more like what your mum meant was that she wouldn't go looking back home for a guy for you.
^^ cause i have seen problems mostly cause guys from back are forced/arranged by parents. but you have different situation. your parents may prefer a guy from here they know about, but I guess they wouldnt mind a guy from back home that you really know about. you were lucky to have for 6 months there. atleast you know his nature and way he approaches life.
but mind it anyone from there will say he will stay in pak so you dont think they are after visa etc etc and plus some ego back there. once you get married it will change.
