Ok so if one gets married from Abroad and has a choice of a few guys how would you pick one???
As you don’t know them you can’t really go by personality so should one go for the best looking.
Btw i know looks are not everthing but as i said it’s difficult to pick by personality.
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Family, education and job could be the basic tests. Risk is always there, local or abroad. But at least covering these basics should manage some of that risk.
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^true what do you mean by family?
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Well, at least the family should be settled and *apparently *decent and educated. I believe, marrying a well educated and settled guy out of a rather jungli family would hike the risk up to a very high level.
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^To be honest even though im an educated lady it don't bother me if he aint it does to alot of people i know that but not to me and to be honest i don't think any of my options are educated
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Its just a way of managing personal risks, what you are getting yourself into. Generally someone educated is *more likely *to be more sensible, accepting and responsible than someone who is not educated. Other than that, everybody has their own preferences.
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^ i suppose when i see potentials i will feel some attraction to someone i suppose one should leave it in the hands of Allah Mian and whatever is in your naseeb is what will happen.
I mean iv seen one of the guys and he seems a sensible guy but there another guy who everyone saying to me is so good looking like proper good looking.
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Forget looks for a few minutes because they dont really count in the long run. Actually, they do but not as much as other things.
How would you marry someone who isnt on the same level mentally? Im just wondering.
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^just coz he aint educated does not mean he is not on the same level mentally i will ensure i don't marry a bacha - i have friends who are not educated i don't think they are on a different level to me
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Sure, but marrying someone educated is a lesser risk then marrying someone based on looks.
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Bon - please manage. 
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None will be educated to such a level i don't think and even if they were i don't think i would base my decision on this
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Okay, looks are the last........the very last thing you use to pick a life partner.
Being good looking is an added bonus...not the entire package. His looks wont help him land a job, put food on the table, make a better husband, be a good father, etc.
His education, his family background, etc are very important for these reasons.
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Family background yes true like i said i know looks are not everything but i won't know him i won't know if he is a hard-worker i can't know until i marry him do i?
Ok so if one gets married from Abroad and has a choice of a few guys how would you pick one???
As you don't know them you can't really go by personality so should one go for the best looking.
Btw i know looks are not everthing but as i said it's difficult to pick by personality.
I would make dua and ask for guidance. Consult my heart. :)
Get your family to talk to the people who know the prospective partner about him, his family, his personal habbits, his career, Islamically, his background etc.
Found out where you will live after marriage and roughly what the lifestyle would be like. Ask him his rough plans for the future. Find out about how his relationship is with his parents and siblings. What will his obligations be to them in the future i.e. will he want to live with his parents?
Find out about your Mother-in-law and what her temperment and character is like. Very very very very important! Hehe!
There would be so many things to consider and I have just listed the few that came to mind.
Keep your eyes and mind open and take your time in deciding. :)
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^Thanks huni - btw i will be living in the UK i already have a house x
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You are welcome. :)
Of course you can find wondeful potential Husbands in Pakistan. But if you are in UK, why don't you look for someone here? Wouldn't it be easier? More things in common etc. :)
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Coz iv always wanted my own house and im not the kinda girl who could look after a family i.e his bros - i wanna live in my own house with just me and hubby inshallah
Coz iv always wanted my own house and im not the kinda girl who could look after a family i.e his bros - i wanna live in my own house with just me and hubby inshallah
Thats precious.
Ok so if one gets married from Abroad and has a choice of a few guys how would you pick one???
As you don't know them you can't really go by personality so should one go for the best looking.
Btw i know looks are not everthing but as i said it's difficult to pick by personality.
How would you pick one?
First you make a list to what things you give more importance.
and then try to find those things in all and whichever has the most things you like pick him.
For me number 1 is education. Not way higher than me but closer to me. If I'm a doctor I would prefer a doctor and if I'm engineer then I would prefer a engineer. If I'm a BSc then I would prefer a MSC or Phd or Mphil.
Education is the most important thing. It does affect on persons everything.
If you give importance to look then pick the good looking person. Why is liay kaay aap nain roz usko daikhna hai agar pasand naheen to roz aap ko usko daikh kar bayzari ho gi. Na janay kub tuk ki zindagi ka saath ho so looks is 2nd most important thing to me.
Aap kisi ko choose karanay jain gi to aap ko sub say pehlay uska looks nazar aay ga. Wo kahtay hain nain first impression is the last impression agar looks main aap ko achcha lagay ga to zahir aap choose karain gay.
Baqi tamaam cheezain important hai laikin unka kuch pata naheen chal sakta aur na hi pata chalaya ja sakta hai jub tuk aap us kay saath time na guzarain laikin looks to forun nazar ata hai.
For Bonny Sister's information Good looking ko her jagah ahmiaaat detay hain job ki selection main bhi. Mera kafi tajarba hai. Her jagah good looking ko ahmiaat di jaati hai. Good looking is an important factor to count on.
Misaal kay tor par
Jub larki ya larka pasand karnay jatay hain good looking ko sub pasand kartay hain.
Class main ya kaheen bhi good looking ko hi sub dost banana chahtay hain.
Job main bhi good looking ko ahmiaat di jaati hai.
Agar do person hon aur dono aik doosray kay compatible hon to good lookin ko chuna jaay ga.
3sray number pay khandan ki taleem bhi achchi ho to uska bhi persnality pay bohat asar parta hai.
4th aur sub say aham Khandaan achcha ho background say yani pichlay janam say. Agar khandan achcha ho ga to nasal bhi achchi ho gi is kay ilawa husband ki persnality bhi achchi ho gi. Khanaan ka achcha hona bohat hi important hai.
Agar khandaan sub say lar jhagar kar ya kinara kashi kar kay rehnay walay hon ya budmaash aur budtameez hon pichlay janam say yan baap dada say to aisay khandaan main hargiz shadi na karain.
Character larkay aur khandaan ka daikhain wo kaisa hai.
Logon say talluqaat kay maamlay main kaisay hain.
Lain dain kay maamlay main kaisay hain.
Yay sub batain mohallay walon aur rishtaydaron say pata chal jateen hain. Zaroor investigate karain her tarha say.
Khandani sharafat bhi bohat aham.
So jis larkay main ziada say ziada points meri batai huwi aur aap ki Pasand ki list main say mil jain us ko chun lain aur agar aap ko pehli baar daikh kar aur balkay kai baa daikh kar dil main khiaal aay kay yay sahi ho ga us ko chun lain naheen to parents ko chunnay kahain wo ziada samajhdar hoty hain aur bahtar chun saktay hain.
Allah say dua karna na bhoolain kay Allah main to naheen samajh sakti tu hi meri sahi rehnumai kar sakta hai jo meray liaay her lihaaz say bahtar ho.
Jis kay liaay aap ka dil ziada haan kahay us kay liaay istakhara kar lain aur jo istakhara ka jawab aay us pay sakhti say amal karain.