Exactly. However it is you find people prior to marriage, it’s pretty much how they’re going to be for the rest of their lives with little exception.
Most people don’t. All they’re thinking about is the picture they have in front of them and most of the time, it’s pretty rosy due to everybody being on their best behavior prior to the shaadi. Add to that all the color and fun of the shadi and shadi events and what you have is a situation where reality doesn’t penetrate until the day after the last wedding party is over and the rosy picture you painted is gone.
So it’s little wonder that a lot of people are unhappy because they didn’t really think of the consequences beforehand. Some tough it out and work on it…eventually they get through it and reach a level of happiness or at least tolerance. And others just give up and either live in misery with a spouse they really aren’t suited for or they get a divorce.