Re: Marrying a poor guy
ideally money is really not to figure in at all. when the person is n ice and caring and has the capability to becoming able to earn enough for his family and hisself, and earn honest income, he is much better than a person who is never home and when is home, is so tired that he cant enjoy what he worked for.
it is a due concern of parents to make sure that their daughter/s get married to a adequately established professional and educated young man. but if he has all the qualities but bad luck in finding a good job, than it is not his fault.
it would be the same for the woman, if we knew more women earning and their earnings figuring just as much essential for getting married to somebody's son.
a very foreign idea, though.
ascertaining the motives of the man is an important thing to consider especially in the context of bringing someone from India or Pakistan to America, Canada or Uk and than finding out that he wanted to simply take advantage of the woman he is marrying, to seek admittance to the countries whereever the woman is residing.
the basis of motives are different indeed in case of both genders. but untilmately it is the deicsion to be made for by the two people, who want to get married, all other things being equal.
money is not the only reason, a wise set of parents of the woman and she herself, would ever let go of bringing into her marital contract, a good future husband.
finally, each person - woman or man have their own set of obligations to endure. a middle ground must be there for the two to get together in dignified manner.
marrying down and marrying up, financially is not as bad, when people are educated and caring on both sides of the families, but marrying someone of a lower education and mentality worse than anything else.
best,
Dushwari