Like we see in Indian movies, a rich girls falls in love with a gaoN ka choRa. The family is upset. GuNDaas are sent to kill the fella, but love conquers all!
Any real life stories? Thoughts?
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Indian films are an exageration of the reality .. but yeah i seen .. and know of a few incidents .. for one .. my parents :)
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Some people marry people that are worse off than them, and others that are better off than them.True love knows no barriers.
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would anyone like to share how they married their poor spouse? :halo:
Indian films are an exageration of the reality .. but yeah i seen .. and know of a few incidents .. for one .. my parents :)
u r parents?..really ..cool. so how did it happen? nd did they live happily ever after? nay major problems?
i hope this q is not 2 personal.
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ideally money is really not to figure in at all. when the person is n ice and caring and has the capability to becoming able to earn enough for his family and hisself, and earn honest income, he is much better than a person who is never home and when is home, is so tired that he cant enjoy what he worked for.
it is a due concern of parents to make sure that their daughter/s get married to a adequately established professional and educated young man. but if he has all the qualities but bad luck in finding a good job, than it is not his fault.
it would be the same for the woman, if we knew more women earning and their earnings figuring just as much essential for getting married to somebody's son.
a very foreign idea, though.
ascertaining the motives of the man is an important thing to consider especially in the context of bringing someone from India or Pakistan to America, Canada or Uk and than finding out that he wanted to simply take advantage of the woman he is marrying, to seek admittance to the countries whereever the woman is residing.
the basis of motives are different indeed in case of both genders. but untilmately it is the deicsion to be made for by the two people, who want to get married, all other things being equal.
money is not the only reason, a wise set of parents of the woman and she herself, would ever let go of bringing into her marital contract, a good future husband.
finally, each person - woman or man have their own set of obligations to endure. a middle ground must be there for the two to get together in dignified manner.
marrying down and marrying up, financially is not as bad, when people are educated and caring on both sides of the families, but marrying someone of a lower education and mentality worse than anything else.
best,
Dushwari
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yup, totally agree with you Dushwari!
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how poor?..my mom was pretty well off and my dad was just okay..it was a love marriage :)
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in our neighbourhood a female doctor married a taxi driver . she had some problems after marriage and then we moved out from that area 
i personaly thinks its just not practical, things i use to get before getting married if i wont get them after, life will be very hard,love sara nikal jata hai dimagh say. atay dal ka bhaoo pata lag jata hai heheheh God i sound like my mother:nessy:
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one of my cousins who is extremely rich married a ery poor guy . now she has 3 children and is striving hard to catch up her own standard .
it is very diifficult to get along with a poor guy
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^ your excellence' poorness!
are you a pious poor? then, it is probable that you could be a suitable candidate.
no you have been proposed by a rich guppan 
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poor guy reporting didn’t happen to me yet.. :hinna:
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it rarely works,
we had a family friend she was in her early 30s who was looking for a "sharif larka" and she would always say that they just want him to be religious and own to earth , money does not matter etc
when I was in pak ~ 5yrs ago] my driver was a very nice young man [early 20s] , handsome and extremely relgious , reasonably educated passed 8th grade] from Chitral.He also seemed interested in marrying this lady [she was a doctor] , when i proposed on his behalf to her she got so offended that I never heard from her again ....
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In real life it doesnt work. A rich girl marrying a poor guy is only filmi. Not only will her family never agree, she herself will not be able to manage either. Imagine it for a second, a rich girl grown up with all the facilities, drivers and naukars marries a poor guy. Will she be able to live with the stress factor tht comes with poority? I really doubt.
Between rich and poor families, it is not only the money which differs, there are plenty of other factors that are different and which can cause major issues later on .. Wont work IMO
yeh kitaboon ke qissey hain bus kitaboon main yaar
or i should say yeh filmon ke qissey hain bus filmon main yaar:)