Marrying a Pakistani man ...

[hanibal]

Re: Marrying a Pakistani man …

@name_105

it was not an accusation, i just wanted to point it out that u have made it sound like rukhsati is a “must” according to islamic proceeding of a marriage although it has not much significance islamically in the proceeding of a marriage

Please do not translate things according to the things in your mind, i sounded what i wrote and not what u thought and accused me off… is that right behaviour??? is that what Islam preaches to you, that you can assume that one is thinking something and then you start accusing him for that??? and surely it was an accusation.. you blamed me for spreading wrong information if this is not accusation then i don’t know what it is??? or is there something else??? sorry for being harsh but i don’t let go people who wrongfully accuse others whilst preaching religious teachings

@name_105

u said her MIL did the right thing by not letting the husband and wife be together alone bcoz rukhsati wasn’t done, and that she also did right by not letting them go for a honeymoon bcoz they didn’t have their rukhsati…as if it was haraam for them to be together alone before rukhsati…so i was jus letting u know that rukhsati is not a must islamically if u didnt already know that

Yes she did the right thing, OP should be grateful to her on this account, had they mated and in result OP have got pregnant can you imagine the situation she might have got into… where she either had to raise the kid as a single mom or worst she had to kill the baby before the baby was born…!!!

I said it earlier, if both are that strict muslims to start with, then they should have announced the rukhsati then and there, it only take a minute or two, the girl could have been there officially, but the both the families delayed it for some reason… **whatever that reason(s) may be, they were valid enough for both sides to not to go for Rukhsati of the girl, **which means a official license for both the girl and boy to live together and go for honey-moon was not granted by the families…

@name_105

and yes i do know rukhsati is a very much practiced tradition in Pakistan, just please dont mix it with whats legal in marriage and whats not as rukhsati is just a tradition as u urself pointed out and not a legal or islamic requirement of marriage proceedings

It is tradition practiced even during the Times of Prophet (SAAW) and not something invented later by Pakistanies only…

For whatever reason(s), even after Nikkah, both families can Delay Rukhsati of the girl, it has been practiced earlier and it is being practiced today…