Re: marrying a non graduate??
LOL!
Re: marrying a non graduate??
I understand everyone would like to marry an educated person.
I am wondering if what kind of girls would think of marrying someone who is not graduate (University dropout) but otherwise a very decent and good person. I must say the except being non graduate there is no other issue with him (either with character or finance).
Would you this considered a stupid thing??
Is it fair for parents to accept his Rishta for a girl who is graduate, and has reasonable career?
If the girl is non graduate herself, she probably wouldn't mind getting married to a non graduate. However, if she's graduate she might object to that. As far as parents are concerned, they might not accept the alliance, but sometimes they do. It depends on them, really. Is it stupid? Well no, because you still have your chances.
Re: marrying a non graduate??
As he might be well settled in his work (managing a product line in a family linked company) right now, but he need to struggle again as and when he decide to return back to his country.
Another thing which is not so bad but nevertheless bothering me, i found he is too generous in spending is money (mostly on family members and friends) to the extent i fear for his ability to manage his money.
Is this kind of guy worth considering?
Am I worrying too much?
I see many of you asked whether or not this question would come up if the guy was rich like Bill Gates, Steve Jobs etc....I think someone gave an example of a millionaire who owned an construction company but no formal education. Well, the fact of the matter is that in this specific situation, the OP is NOT asking about a guy who's rich. This guy is not a millionaire. He does not own his company. He manages a product line in a "family linked company"....which makes me wonder....how much "family influence" played a role in him getting his position? Would he have gotten this job based solely on his "skills"....if the family connection wasn't there?
To tipusulatn:
No, I don't think you're worrying too much. Unfortunately, in today's world money does matter. When you get sick, when you have kids who get sick, when you have to plan to retirement etc......on a daily basis, money makes a difference in our lives. I have several things I'm wondering about as well as come comments.
1) WHY did he not go to college? Is it b/c his family could not afford it? Or was a choice? If it was a choice, have you asked him why he choose not to get a college degree?
2) As for him spending generously on his family and friends....the issue is not how much he's spending. The issue you need to worry about is how much he's SAVING and how much DEBT he has. I know plenty of people who make A LOT of money...but no savings. They don't plan for their retirement or emergencies. In my opinion, before you marry any guy, you should definately find out what percentage of his income he's putting in his retirement account. That doesn't require he tell you exactly how much he earns.....but he should not hesitate to give you a percentage that he puts aside regularly for retirement. Ask him what his views are on having emergency funds. If a man doesn't already have a "plan" for a emergency fund, savings, retirement etc.....then I personally would not consider him. Financial habits like that don't change overnight just b/c a man gets married. If this particular guy is saving a decent amount of his income, does not have a lot of debt, and is still able to spend generously on family/friends, then there's nothing wrong with that.
3) You need to ask yourself and decide...do you want to work full time once you have children? Or do you want to stay home with them? Does this man make enough money to support a wife and 1 or 2 children? If he leaves his current job, will he be able to find another job either in Pakistan or another country which will allow him to support a family without a college degree? My best friend always wanted to be a stay home mom. She choose to marry a man with no formal education. They've been married almost 7 years and has 2 kids. Her husband has reached a "glass ceiling" in field and can not advance upto management level b/c he does not have a college degree. As a result, my friend MUST work full time b/c his salary alone can not support a wife and 2 kids. And just for the record, they don't live a lavish lifestyle. It's simple things like house, car, insurance, kids college fund, retirement etc.
4) Let's say you marry this man. You have kids. I'm assuning you'd like for your kids to have formal education. So if you child tells you "I don't want to go to college. Dad never went. Why shoud I?".....how will you respond?
5) I will repeat what I wrote in the very beginning. How much "family influence" did he have in getting his current job? Would he be managing the product line at this company without the family connection...based on his skills alone?
Re: marrying a non graduate??
I feel sorry for ppl who cant see a person beyond degrees. :no:
It like admiting “I don’t have my own brain working so I am going to measure your brain with some one else standards.”
Seriously…
Re: marrying a non graduate??
^awww
Re: marrying a non graduate??
i think the reason for marrying a graduate is so tha he has a stable career etc...but if he has that anyway....then whats the problem?