from what i've seen around me, there is too great a chasm in thinking between the way girls are brought up here and more traditional pakistani guys.
i.e. the girl can be homely and conservative but at the same time she will probably have a good level of education and wants to work and not have children straight away. from what i've seen, the former isn't enough because then traditions kick in - women should stay and home and the purpose of marriage is to start popping out children straight away.
and other small issues, like here it's perfectly normal for a woman to go out shopping or for other errands herself but many women in pakistan (in the kind of set up being discussed) would not go without their husband. i could go on and on really.
In Pakistan, educated men from villages and small cities are different only because of their more conservative values. Other than that, I don't think there is much difference left.
The difference can not only be seen between villages and cities but between cities as well.
From what I've seen...attitudes/perceptions can vary depending upon whether the individual is from a smaller (less developed city)...or from a more developed city where the educational and career opportunities are better.
And then again, jaahil-like mentality can sometimes even transcend class, location, and education. You have the responsibility of getting to know the potential family and doing an investigation to see if you're compatible. Marriage (regardless of where the one is from) is not a decision to rush into.
hmmm my dad was born & brought up in village , he did schooling from village , then his family migrated to city so he did his higher studies from city & started working in city too. My mom was born & brought up in city , infact has lived a major part of her life is an arab country. They both have been happily married masha allah for past 31 years :)
it depends upon the person you are marrying. some very educated multiple degree holders city guys can act like jahil & janwar and some not so educated people from village can act like insaan. I don't think city or village has got much to do with the value person holds & how he treat others.
