So my friend (lets call her F) met this great dude (V) in 2005. They started out being friends, but now things are obviously more serious than just that. V is a great guy, I’ve only met him a handful times, but from what she says and what other friends say, he is suppose to be a “perfect” guy for her. The problem is, that V is from Spain and he is Catholic. My friend F is from a conservative and religiuse family, though they are more traditional than religiuse. I know her family history very well. And I have a feeling that her parents wont agree on her marrying this dude. How come? No one in F’s family is married outside their caste. Only a cousin of her is married to a turkish girl - who is muslim btw - and he is disowned by the whole khandan. Only his parents visit him at times.
Now, how can my friend convince her parents the best? I dont want her to take a drastic step and end up being killed or something.. or even worsed like being taken to pak and married to the first buddha they find ..
So my question is basically, do you know anyone whoz married to a gora/gori? How did they convince their parents? I need some lighting up stories, since F is very depressed nowadays and I’m afraid she will do something stupid .. and no I cant tell her family, I’m too scared of tht. ..
One of my best friend's sister is married to a gora, it was an arranged marriage, he converted to Islam , is Mashallah very committed and practicing Muslim and wanted to marry equally practicing Muslim girl.
By the way Muslim women are not allowed to Marry non Muslims men. So I have heard . I did not do any research on this topic on my own so I cannot provide more details about this topic may be some other guppy can shed light on this aspect of Islamic rulings.
So my friend (lets call her F) met this great dude (V) in 2005. They started out being friends, but now things are obviously more serious than just that. V is a great guy, I've only met him a handful times, but from what she says and what other friends say, he is suppose to be a "perfect" guy for her. The problem is, that V is from Spain and he is Catholic. My friend F is from a conservative and religiuse family, though they are more traditional than religiuse. I know her family history very well. And I have a feeling that her parents wont agree on her marrying this dude. How come? No one in F's family is married outside their caste. Only a cousin of her is married to a turkish girl - who is muslim btw - and he is disowned by the whole khandan. Only his parents visit him at times.
Now, how can my friend convince her parents the best? I dont want her to take a drastic step and end up being killed or something.. or even worsed like being taken to pak and married to the first buddha they find ..
So my question is basically, do you know anyone whoz married to a gora/gori? How did they convince their parents? I need some lighting up stories, since F is very depressed nowadays and I'm afraid she will do something stupid .. and no I cant tell her family, I'm too scared of tht. ..
yeah a "porn star" is better than a "budha" on any given day!!
yeah a "porn star" is better than a "budha" on any given day!!
Pa jee hath hola rakho, how do you know this guy is a porn star ? Being from Spain does not make anybody a porn star automatically.
Thora thuda panee shani , lassi shasi pay kar aa-o.
^lolz .. okay take a chill pill .. he is not a porn star. He is a great guy and according to her he is ready to convert for her, but the problem is, tht her family is the type who only marry within their caste, so will that be enough for them tht he is converting? .. I've made her read the topic, hopefully some of ur replies can give her some way..
^ From the way it sounds, none of that will matter, even if he's a pakistani Muslim from the same city, just b/c he's nto the same caste, they willr efuse or her life will be a hell. sad but true
Pa jee hath hola rakho, how do you know this guy is a porn star ? Being from Spain does not make anybody a porn star automatically.
Thora thuda panee shani , lassi shasi pay kar aa-o.
same she knows every one from pakistan is abudha chasing after good for nothing foreign born chicks.
sometimes certain castes are more strict than others about marrying outside. Like if she's syed, then I hear what you're saying because, as a syed, I know sometimes it's REALLY hard to convince the family that caste isn't THE MOST important thing in the world.
But...yeah it seems like even if the boy WAS Pakistani/muslim, the family would be hard to convince because he's not of the same zaat as the girl.
well if hes catholic..hes christian so hes still ale-kitaab..so tell her to go 4 it..who cares what her parents say?..who knows maybe the paki guy they marry her off 2 will treat her like ****!..and her parents arent going to be with her forever now r they?..
by the way, he should convert for Allah, not for the girl.
Soni27, what kind of advise is that? who cares what her parents say?
Are you serious? You have something against Pak Men, right? Why do
you make these bloody assumptions that he will treat her like ****?
He probably understands the value of Islam that's why he even considered converting. If the desire is there, the practice will eventually follow.
Hey, not caring about parents feelings is a misfortune. It is one thing to disagree with their opinion, but disrespecting their thoughts and needs is unfair to the ranking that Allah has established.
same she knows every one from pakistan is abudha chasing after good for nothing foreign born chicks.
well I'm confused .. because I really do mean a buddha .. I wasnt calling everyone from pak a buddha, but tht her parents will marry her to a very old age - its a way of punishment I guess
well if hes catholic..hes christian so hes still ale-kitaab..so tell her to go 4 it..who cares what her parents say?..who knows maybe the paki guy they marry her off 2 will treat her like ****!..and her parents arent going to be with her forever now r they?..
Wow are u serious? .. Beside as far as my knowledge is even if he is ale-kitab muslim girls are not allowed to marry outside Islam.. no?