marrying a girl from different ethnic setup

[ImranQ]

Re: marrying a girl from different ethnic setup

@Mamaof3

hmmm. what to say? I’m a “gori”, my hubby is a paki. We love each other very much, he is the best friend and the most awesome husband I could ever imagine.

The only problems we’ve ever really had that could be considered “cultural” is the visiting thing - when relatives either pop in un-announced for 2 or 3 days or a relative comes over from overseas and wants us to take them shopping (with OUR credit cards) day after day. For weeks. It doesnt happen very often so its not a big deal but it is a pain in the neck and does cause friction from time to time. I guess I’m a cold un-hospitable gori-type lol!

Gori culture dictates that relatives or friends contact you in advance, schedule a visit (for a few hours) and thats it. There is the rare occasion with sleepovers esp if its a very close relative living far away but again, thats rare. And the further away or the longer the stay, the more in advance its scheduled. Cold I guess but life in the us of a is totally crazy - no 5 weeks of vacation - more like work 10 hours a day and some weekends, 2 weeks vacation and bills, bills bills. These things are just not understood “over there” (in Pak). They think we’re just rich and enjoying the high life.

Hmmm

Mamaof3, what if u let u know how n what (hubby side) close relatives feel about gori wife of their son / brother

How come?? well my bhabi (bro wife) is a gori too. privacy is one of the major concerns with gori bhabi.