Marrying a 'Freshy'...

[Sara516]

Re: Marrying a ‘Freshy’…

@Naughty by Nature

Hey Guppies…
I’m interested in peoples experiences of arranged marriages…in reference to those settled in the West marrying from Pakistan…(im sure its been brought up before)…im interested in a few particular aspects. I have my own opinions but i’ll refrain from using them now.
I notice that if this step is taken it tends to be by men…and if it is by women they tend never to be partcicularly happy about it but cant get divorced cos family will blame her bla bla…so for the men who have taken this step…why choose to get married to someone from back home rather than someone british/american born & how did you deal with the differences?..do you prefer girls from the villages or more modern western girls who live similar lifestyles to you…how would you compare them to British born girls say in aspects such as their expectations, independence etc…Also did you notice any positive or negative changes in your partners since they got here?..Same for girls who have married from abroad.
Also as for women from Pakistan who have settled how difficult did you find it to adjust to the fast, lonely lifestyle that is London away from your family as opposed to the lifestyle you had back home…maybe you were wealthy in Pakistan and were used to luxury…how are you adjusting now?..was London what you expected it to be…was marriage expected it to be…have you changed significantly since you came here?..do you feel more independent now and do you value having more choice?..do you have higher expectations of life now?..
Pakis i understand dont like airing their own business but are quite happy to air others business lol so feel free to talk about experiences you have seen.
My main objective is to understand why people seek partners from abroad…whether they see it as an easy option…and whether that innocent, genuine, easy going girl who expected nothing from me except love and support da di da remained like that when she assimilated within British society where expectations of human beings and relationships tend to never be fulfilled…and in the same way im interested in whether Pakistanis expectations were met here or do they miss their simple, slow Pakistan lifestyle surrounded by family and friends and whether they have changed significantly since they got here…
By the way i have no slant to one or the other…im happy dating and marrying girls from here and im happy to do the same abroad…they have their advantages and disadvantages but both can work depending on whether the people make it work…just interested in how well ones have made it work.

Guys (or thier mothers) want girls from pak because no one believse women born or raised here will be good wives. There’s the stereotype that we’re slutty or trashy and ultra moooooddderrrrnnn Girls will marry ag uy from back home because i suppose it’s easier to findsomeone there because all the guys here are going bak home for bivian!! My mother wants to find a guy from ther,e and I DON’T