Marrying a convert

Lifestyle Relationships
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Re: Marrying a convert

^i think she was honest enough as well. what is with the tea and paper?

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Separate thread but i sure'd like to know why you hate 'desi culture' so much? Maybe it's just the bit you've seen. Keep an open mind about it. //Peace\

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I'm sorry if I haven't already made myself clear enough that I don't care too much for your responses.

How about now? Yes?

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no particular reason , just dont like the way desis dress, their traditions and literature

except for khawaja mir dard , zauq and molana altaf hussain hali
modern desi culture esp at wedding is just repungent esp. the music, songs [yuck]

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Re: Marrying a convert

Wow, you really dont like it.

Were you born and raised in Pakistan?

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I have a friend about to marry a convert. He was married to a muslim just like him in the past but that marriage didnt work out. Now he has fallen for a hindu girl and she'll be moving to pakistan soon to convert and get married... I hope it works out for both of them!

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yes all my life except last 5 yrs i stayed in pakistan

i hope a war between india and pakistan is the final solution of the desi problem

Opportunist
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I dont think thats a nice thing to say DR. I actually relish our beautiful desi culture...there is so much life and spice in it. This is real culture. I was out today looking for desi clothes and it was awesome. I never get even half as excited over western clothes and Im an ABCD. Its nice knowing who you are and where your roots are. If you grew up in the west where you didnt quite fit in here but didnt exactly blend in Pakistan, you would know what I mean.

The US is an awesome place to be, dnt get me wrong. I love it here, its my home but Caucasians here dnt really have a specific culture or so Ive noticed. Everything is imported here which is why American is one big melting pot. The only things we have here in the US that are American by origin are things like Valentine's Day, Thanksgiving, BBQ's, beer and Monday night football.

You dnt find many ppl here who are 100% of anything. If you ask someone, the answer is usually "Im a quarter Irish, quarter Italian, quarter Czech and quarter Portugese"...sometimes ppl even forget there can only be 4 quarters, lol. However, I can say Im 100% American Pakistani or Pakistani American. There isnt any guesswork or identity issue there.

Desi culture is flawed just like every other culture out there...but its got a lot of beauty in it too.

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so the point of this thread is.......?

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Re: Marrying a convert

our roots are islam which transcends all cultural barriers , liking one particular culture or identifying with it promotes asabbiyah or nationalism which is haram

sara point ofthis thread is for people to share their experiences so i might learn something new about such marriages or see a aspect which i never thought of before ....

as far as pointless posts go , surely they constitute the vast majority of ur 27000posts

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firstly i never said i liked all western culture either
secondly all these things u mentioned apart maybe from thanksgiving are haram anyways

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Re: Marrying a convert

as far as actual experiences of relationship with western women how wud people rate it ?

what are their advantages /disadvantages over desi women

unfortunately my experience with them is severely limited to one Mutah which i did for the brief period [barely 10 months] when i was a 12er shia and i dont follow it anymore ]...after i left 12ers mutahs are out of question
i was married for a year with a desi girl which ended in divorce ..

Kis Kis ne COKE pini hay :)
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I understand but what is Western culture?