scenario: A guy and a girl are really good frens. They have shared every thing with together considering each other as best buddies. Guys knows about girl’s past relationship n girl knows about the guy’s. They fully understand each other. Lets say later on guy start having feelings for his fren and propose her.
As a girl.. in her shoes.. what would you do? Would you consider him as a life partner or keep him as a fren to avoid any future chaos? Same questions to the guys ..
I personally would really make sure that what I am gettin myself into. I will most likely not marry that fren unless I have feelings too for him
if the feelings are returned i would never ever even hesitate to say yes
but if i dont share the same feelings no matter how close we are then i would have to let him down gently.
It depends on how you feela bout that friend. Sometimes you want to just keep that person as a friend. But let me tell you, even if you don't have feelings back for this male friend....your friendship is on its way out. I have seen that the guy can not handle just being your friend, depending on how much he likes you. YOu might just lose a friend...and I hate that cuz some guys are so cool to be friends with, like i had a really close friend back in college, I could talk to him about anything and everything, he was like a girlfriend...but when i found out he likes me I got weirded out. I did not reciprocate the feelings..anywyas long story short eventually we stopped talking to each other, as he couldnt handle being my friend when he likes me....better to avoid these situations.
and here is what my suggestion is:
I say propose her only if you are ready to lose her even as a friend. Anything can happen. If she has feelings for you, she can say YES and if she does’t have feelings two things can happen, you guys can stay friends or an “un seen” wall can come b/w you two and with time you guys will not even remain friends
I myself will never say “HAAN” to anyone (be it stranger of best friend) untill I have feelings and chances are that after the “NAA”, things will not remain same
even if i've had feelings for a close friend, i knew if i said sumthing the friendship would get ruined either way, so i backed off & didn't pursue it any furthur.
Well nthing like it...best friends can only be best partners in life...besides from personal xperience i know tat marriage based on frienship and spouses living more on friendly bases are far easy to move along....and can understand life much better togather as a team.
As a girl.. in her shoes.. what would you do? Would you consider him as a life partner or keep him as a fren to avoid any future chaos? Same questions to the guys ..
I personally would really make sure that what I am gettin myself into. I will most likely not marry that fren unless I have feelings too for him :-)
Lets hear what would u do and why would u do it..
why won't you marry him if he knows about Your Past relationships as well? so apparently both of you had relationships and got dumped somehow (:D) so why not start a happy life together?
I think thats rather convenient :D If I had feelings for the guy too I would most likely go for it, firstly you have feelings for eachother, secondly u r at a certain comfort level which helps, thirdly u already know everything there is to be known about the other person so hopefully no more surprises there. If u can find love in friendship i'd say it would be pretty good.
I haven’t read through all the replies BUT i think the base of every good marriage and relationship is friendship. Just because she’s never considered him in that way (or vice versa) doesnt mean it can absolutely NOT work out.
Also, what if he ends up marrying antoher girl, will the “friend” still be in his life?
I think Femme put it the best.. it’s great having someone who knows you inside and out, no surprises and no judgement.. it’s a wonderful feeling
my husband grew up next door to me, our moms are best friends. i never thought i would marry him until we both moved away from home to go to university. At university i began to see him in a new light, i was always comforted by him. So yes i think if you had feeling for a friend and the feelings were returned then go for it. Its really fun to have a partner that you're friends with. and like sara said very few surprises
I'd Go for it, Ghar ki murghi se acchi kia aur cheez? But to be honest, I wouldnt know for sure, cos all my close friends are geeky, totally unromanchick and weird like myself ..:P
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