Marrying a 33 Year Old Man

Lifestyle Relationships
21

Re: Marrying a 33 Year Old Man

PCG you think this is equivalent to pedophilia?

OP do you know the guy? Everyone has different priorities.

22

Re: Marrying a 33 Year Old Man

Pedophilia is sexual attraction to children.

You are not a child, a 24 year old girl is NOT a child.

Stop turning something perfectly legit into something disgusting.

23

Re: Marrying a 33 Year Old Man

I was 25 and my wife was 18 when we got married. No one even brought up the age issue. I think a 5 years difference is ideal. Like girl is 20 and the guy is 25. And 24 is some what late for a girl. So you are actually running late instead of being the target of a pedophile.

24

Re: Marrying a 33 Year Old Man

24 is late for a girl to get married?

From pedephelia to old maids, ek se ek extremes hain yahaan

Whatever happened to getting married when you're good and ready and when you find someone compatable with whom you share ideals, regardless of age or age difference

25

Re: Marrying a 33 Year Old Man

:smack:

26

Re: Marrying a 33 Year Old Man

Given that your interests match with him, 9 yrs diff is probably ok.
There are however plenty of cases when an older husband starts to feel jealous if his wife talks to ANY younger guy, even if it just social talk.
Just make sure that he isnt possessive, and you can/should ask him to clarify such matters. Good luck.

27

Re: Marrying a 33 Year Old Man

.

28

Re: Marrying a 33 Year Old Man

Pedophilia is sexual attraction to CHILDREN. Unfortunately, it happens in EVERY community.

I have no idea why that particular word is even being brought into this thread. This is about a 24 year old woman marrying a 33 year old man (ie. 2 consenting ADULTS).

29

Re: Marrying a 33 Year Old Man

yeah be good and ready at 37 and hit menopause a few years later and then have 1 kid and a dog.

30

Re: Marrying a 33 Year Old Man

Sab kuch Allah ki dhain hai. Jab qismat main lihka hai, tabhi shadi aur bachain hoingay. There is no guarantee that marrying at 18 will produce 4 kids by age 30…a women can also get married at 22 and be barren/infertile and poof have a healthy child at age 40…or what if wife is young and fertile but the husand also young, is infertile?

Rather than perpetuate stereotypes, a positive and healthy marriage/respectful relationship should be stressed

And honesty, if a man or women choose not to marry or have kids, or put it off until later years in life, it doesn’t make them any less of a human or less worthy of love and respect.

Oh, and for the record, I married at 23, my husband is three years older than me and we had 3 children by the time I was 30. :blush:

31

Re: Marrying a 33 Year Old Man


I got married at 20, was I able to conceive, no, had issues, i am 25 now n 1 baby. i know ladies having kids after 35, all normal no issues.

32

Re: Marrying a 33 Year Old Man

Yeah because every man's dream is to have a 37 years old bride. By then, a person is too rigid in his/her ways and less able to change or compromise which is a must in every marriage. I know what people will say, what about those who are widowed or can't find a good rishat? Well that's different from actually planning to marry in your mid 30s, which is definitely quite late for a woman, unless of course she wants a dog and maybe/probably a kid, otherwise the dog will do. Hey Americans get by this way just fine so why can't you?

33

Re: Marrying a 33 Year Old Man

I wanted to make a few points regarding your statement above:

  1. Who brought up 37? Who said that one must wait until 37 in order to be ready?

  2. My own mother gave birth to my 2 younger siblings at the ages of 37 and 39. I know several women in my circle who have had successful pregnancies in their late 30’s. Heck I know one that got pregnant and had a healthy baby at 43! And no, none of these women went through fertility treatments.

  3. Oh the flip side, I have also known women in their mid-late 20’s who had trouble conceiving. There is no guarantee that fertility issues won’t exist just b/c of someone’e age. Yes, the odds are higher when a woman is young…but its silly to make such blanket statements saying that there is some type of guarantee of a baby (or no baby) at a certain age.

  4. Lastly, what’s wrong with having 1 kid and a dog? :konfused:

On a totally side note: Why is it we’re always so focused on the woman’s age when it comes to babies? This might come as a total shock to some people…but there are plenty of cases where its the MAN with the fertility issues. But no, let’s all stay focused on the woman’s age and her reproductive system only. :rolleyes:

34

Re: Marrying a 33 Year Old Man

And there is a dearth of spinsters/old maids in the utopia that is Pakistan, right? Right. :rolleyes:

35

Re: Marrying a 33 Year Old Man

It depends on person to person, some 33 year olds are very lively and young at heart, while some 25 year olds are quite old and boring.

My parents have a 10 year age difference and I can tell how their thinking so different from each other, but ive seen many successful marriages with huge age gaps. the trick is that you should connect. :) If its a arranged marriage get to know him personally and not a few phone calls or meeting. The real side of him..

36

Re: Marrying a 33 Year Old Man


well you are actually not getting the point, age is just number , compatibilty and understanding is more important.

37

Re: Marrying a 33 Year Old Man

Okay, this is in no way equivalent to pedophilia - like one of you suggested, I'm 24 and would marry with my own consent, jeez.

And I come across such aunties every day, who remind me that I'm horribly late for marriage. I was nikah-fied in the past and took khulla two years back (I was very young when it all happened). I took my time to mature down and get ready for another relationship. I don't know about you all, but I'll say Alhamdolilah when I find someone worth spending my life with, regardless of his age.

Considering what I was actually asking here, this is one response I really think is worth pondering on:
**
There are however plenty of cases when an older husband starts to feel jealous if his wife talks to ANY younger guy, even if it just social talk.
Just make sure that he isnt possessive, and you can/should ask him to clarify such matters. Good luck.**

38

Re: Marrying a 33 Year Old Man

I believe, its more of a mental problem than an age difference problem!!

39

Re: Marrying a 33 Year Old Man

Marrying someone closer to your age will not guarantee that you will not have understanding issues. Whether or not there are any understanding issues between you and thsi 33-year-old depends on the two of you only.

I would highly recommend you and this guy spend time getting to know each other, have open/honest conversations about what BOTH of you expect out of the marriage and what your plans are in the future regarding things like career, education, children etc. Ask him things like what his family is like, how traditional/religious are his parents, if he expects you to live in a joint family situation, his views on you working, just how much he practicies his religion etc. If both of you seem to agree on those types of major things.....then pursue the rishta.

However, if there seems to have major things you two do not agree on OR if you just get a feeling that you and this particular man are just too different....then this is not Mr. Right. Do not rush into a marriage. Ask ANYONE who has been divorced (and maybe some people even on this forum stuck in unhappy marriages)...............it's better to be single (and perhaps frustrated with that status) versus being married and actually being miserable b/c you chose the wrong peron.

40

Re: Marrying a 33 Year Old Man

I am glad to know your mom’s pregnancy went fine, but did she get married at that age? I doubt it. I was not referring to get getting pregnant alone, but a woman’s priorities which first and foremost should be to get married. Oh wait did I just say that? Yes I did. Career has it’s place, but not at the price of what comes natural to a woman, which is a family and a husband. The same goes for a man, but he has to make sure he can provide for his wife to be and kids first. Too traditional and backwards thinking? I guess so. What’s the alternative? a 60% divorce rate and going to several “partners” before finding the “right” one. Women working and also having to do whatever they would have had to do being house wives. Here we have a 24 years old woman who thinks she is the target of a pedophile because he is 33, when does she think she will be marriage age and not in her infancy?