Re: Married Working Females
There is no right or wrong answer to this. Every couple has different values and should do what works best for their home. My husband and I treat both of our salaries as “ours” and that works for us. If you believe that your salary is 100% yours and don’t want to spend a single penny towards family expenses, then all you need to do is find a husband who also has that same belief (and plenty of men do) and there won’t be any issues.
Marriage is not about keeping things “equal.” Whether it’s money, household chores or taking care of the kids…it’s ridiculous to think that everything will be a equal 50/50 at all times. That’s how issues like resentment happen. I contribute financially when I can but it’s far from an equal 50% of all our expenses/spending simply because my husband makes far more money than I do. Neither of us ever keep track of how much I’m contributing. With household chores, my husband helps out a lot but I don’t keep track of whether it’s shared equally. This is not a roommate situation. It’s a “us”. Both of us contribute to the best of our ability in order to make things better for BOTH of us with every single aspect of our lives.