if a person is absorbed in work and tries hard to look after the spouse, does that give the other spouse the right to cheat and engage in infidelity to meet her/ his own needs?
Re: married to work and a loser in fidelity
Well, in principle, NO!!!
On the other hand, he must not be trying hard to meet spouse’s needs 
Am assuming it’ s a man who’s working hard. But I heard there’s some clause in Islamic laws, that if a man cannot fullfill wife’s rights in bed, she can divorce herself from that marriage.
But in essence, cheating… Hell NO!!! 
From neither partner! That’s what we are all about, control, tolerance, honesty! We have been sent here to test … Leyublowakum Ehsan-o-amala (from Surah Mulk)
Re: married to work and a loser in fidelity
Nirali duniya niralay kaam, there is no justification for infidelity but still it happens. The answer to ur question is "No".
Re: married to work and a loser in fidelity
No. Not the right. But opportunity, yes. Which is why it is important to speak.
Re: married to work and a loser in fidelity
ppl these days just want an excuse....
Re: married to work and a loser in fidelity
Wht nikki said, not the right but xcuse/opportunity...
Re: married to work and a loser in fidelity
No.....but people still do that....it's an unfair world.
Re: married to work and a loser in fidelity
Cheaters always say that, u were too busy to talk to me or something like that
Re: married to work and a loser in fidelity
thanks guys and sakhis. i know this is a huge prob these days even though we say we are Muslims and are righteous in our deeds, but at times the spirit becomes guilty and the body does not resist.
i hope people our age are aware of this and in their own relations, they will be mindful of this sort of disturbance in life.
thanks all,
-dushwari :)
Re: married to work and a loser in fidelity
Its a good thing ur not married then, eh. No marrage = no bakwas problems.
Re: married to work and a loser in fidelity
i think ppl like that should not get married..
if they do not have sufficient time for each other why bother ?
Re: married to work and a loser in fidelity
Niyal, these days we’re spoiled. We expect to be pampered and doted upon by our spouse. It’s as though a marriage fails if one person has to work overtime or weekends to survive. In the old days men used to go to war for months or years and his wife remained loyal and committed. I believe in quality over quantity. If a couple is secure and truly love eachother, they can survive the rough times. Cheating because one spouse is ‘busy’ is selfish and weak. It shows a lack of respect. Look at a couple like Christopher Reeves and his wife. They’re both unfortunately deceased now but they were both a source of strength for eachother. How many of us can say we’ve faced what they did and still kept our dignity and perseverence?
Re: married to work and a loser in fidelity
Very well said. You're absolutely right. I wish men and women followed this also, beyond knowing.
Re: married to work and a loser in fidelity
Cheating in marriage is an extreme act and there must be some reasons behind the act. An emotionally troubled wife/husband may try to find an exit and then fall into a trap. It is not justified but it is possible. One cannot exclude the other spouse out of the blame.