kafayat shoari is good.. saving is good.. save you never know when you will be faced with tangi… financial problems… then at least you can use your wife’s savings to get BOTH of you out of trouble. Re pay her back later and yeah i dont give a damn if anyone thinks i am a bit old fashioned in thinking. I am not! i am being sensible, responsible and mature. thank you very much:chai:
I have nothing against saving but saving behind your husband’s back is very bad. Why not do it and tell him that u are saving it for bad times. But doing it behind and then buying flats or houses is just wrong in my eyes. Its like as there is no trust.
who said my dad does not know that my mom is saving? it is mutual they both know about it and my dad appreciates what my mom is doing. he always says, jo tumhare paise hain woh tumhare hain aur jo mere hain woh hum dono ke hain.
kafayat shoari is good.. saving is good.. save you never know when you will be faced with tangi... financial problems... then at least you can use your wife's savings to get BOTH of you out of trouble. Re pay her back later and yeah i dont give a damn if anyone thinks i am a bit old fashioned in thinking. I am not! i am being sensible, responsible and mature. thank you very much:chai :
Why is your post directed toward "ABCDs"? Did anyone say anything against saving? You seem really defensive, but I'm not sure what prompted this.
why? well because abcds etc are born outside pakistan etc and the thinking level is completely different and so are the values in which people are brought in. i have seen very few people who were born outside pakistan abroad or went to uk canada and usa and didnt change their thinking. i am sooo annoyed at the kind of replies i have been reading in this thread and decided to give my input about it.
you people think its normal that all girls work or have jobs and everyone can work and earn money however it is not soo.. you people were ignoring the views of those women who do not work and stay at home yet they still manage money and their households better then those women who do work and earn their own money. even those women who do not work still have their own seperate accounts you know:chai:
I hope you know that there are plenty of women who choose to stay home and take care of home and family in the US. I did not see "us people" ignoring those women at all.
Aisha, I didnt mean your mom, I know a case in my family, a female who bought a house behind her husband's back in pakistan, they lived abroad, she wanted to tell him after the deal was done, as she thought that he will not approve, but the husband died before the deal was over!! Now she has a house but no husband.
I hope you know that there are plenty of women who choose to stay home and take care of home and family in the US. I did not see "us people" ignoring those women at all.
Yes i know that but in this thread i found no evidence of that. All the women on this forum were talking about jobs and earning their own keep.
Aisha, I didnt mean your mom, I know a case in my family, a female who bought a house behind her husband's back in pakistan, they lived abroad, she wanted to tell him after the deal was done, as she thought that he will not approve, but the husband died before the deal was over!! Now she has a house but no husband.
Oh alright, it is tragic to hear about this. She should have consulted with her husband. However, as the husband did die and leave her at least she will have a place of her own and not worry about shelter and where she will live. In case she wants to live in Pakistan or if she does not then she can at least give the house on rent and she can live her life using the rent money and other means. I am not saying that rent money will be enough but the financial burden on her head will be less in comparison to no rent/house.
Yes i know that but in this thread i found no evidence of that. All the women on this forum were talking about jobs and earning their own keep.
Actually, that's not true at all. If you read carefully, you will see that several women responded who do not work. But besides that, the original poster asked for personal experience. How can you fault someone for sharing what works for them?
many women dont wanna ask abut money to their hubs but i think if they r not asking then husbands should give them himself without asking,,,n i like the way to take pocket money bcuz its uneasy way to demand to ur husband for every single thing,,,in case of pocket money wife must know her limits of expenses n her personal saving.n i personally dont like the way of husbands who ask their wives about the use of money,,if they have given the amount to their wives then its strange n bit insulting to ask about it.wat u guys think??
^ i think it goes both ways..hubby should trust her and not interrogate about every single penny spent and the wifey should be responsible with his money too and not always throw it away on fazool stuff or whatnot…
I must bank few million pounds before I get married.
