Ever since we moved out of the country my husband is quite lonely, because he had a very good group of friends, who were together since their childhood. They cared a lot about eachother, they would have a get together every weekend. Where all the friends used to chit chat while their wives had their own company. But as the time passed, everyone had children and life got busy, then the weekend thing shifted to once a month. But still, whenever he wanted to see his friends he went alone. And spent some time with them. I had no problem with that. Sometimes, you need a break from the routine and need to spend some time with the friends. You can be his best friend but the time the friends spent together in growing up could never be replaced. The friends understand eachother in another way, which a wife cant do.
But if your husband lies to you and you dont know anything about him. How he spends his day, and what kind of friends he has, then there is a problem. YOu dont trust him and he doesnt like to spend time with u or the kids. Then its another problem, which needs to be solved.
These friends are not old friends hes known for years. Hes recently made these friends. And they drink alcohol and god knows what else they do when theyre out.
He says hes turning over a new leaf now that its the new year. So where is he now and where was he last night till 1 am?. Out with his friends of course. Does that sound like someone whos making a fresh start.
Maybe follow him, and videotape his actions, and then use it in a court of law against him if you find anything too over the top (God forbid). If not, then you can always distribute the tape around to the more religious relatives in his family.
i think you already posted about him earlier and I guess this once too you're only letting off steam as it's obvious there's nothing you can do or are willing to do about the situation.
I think you have written about your husband a few times before and his "abusive" behavior. We keep on telling you to leave him and start collecting child support from him or send him to jail if he doesn't pay up, but you unfortunately don't want to take action.
If you don't take any action, then we'll just keep on seeing more and more threads like these from you every couple of months.
Ebrima,
It seems that you're putting up with alot of behavior from your husband that you shouldn't. I can also sense that you don't trust him. It's a shame that he'd rather spend every waking minute with his friends and not you. Have you talked to him about it? Does he know that you need more time with him? Maybe write him a letter and if he doesn't respond or talk to you then you know you have a problem. He could be trying to hide something or trying to avoid you. But I hope he realizes that he needs to be with you not his friends.