Re: Married only
Family just feel that their son is getting away as you try to fit in new person in your life, it does take some attention from others time. they need to be bit understanding and you should.
but you get married and i beleive you should bring your wife with you, there is nothing selfish about it. but dont over stretch though, be prepared to get new job or jobs and take your time.
I was in kind of same situation apart from the finance thing. I was well prepared and got myself house and everthing well before I got married and then brought my wife after visa processing.
family does think initially about such things, but it will be fine. dont over react and tell them its not the case. they are just feeling like this. they will understand and get it.
good luck