Bobby1
July 11, 2017, 11:11am
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Re: married muslim lady in relationship with someone
i needed suggestions as i cant suggest anything to her being a very sensitive issue. her marriage is messed up since day 1. her husband abuses her mentally n physically in front of children. He had no concerns with their children as well. not supporting enough financially or by other means. her relationship with other guy is not physical n just limited to communicate on phone n meeting often. she had been tortured to much that she had to find a vent out of herself. as tolerating all this with patience, even did not bring any positive change in her husband. basically she was drained to the extent , if she could not get along with other guy, probably she would have ended up committing suicide. she used to be very religious. she still feel that that she is doing wrong n it continuosly pinch herself. divorce is not an option as there are many other issues involved. but still shes considering to go for it. the guy shes involved with a decent person. he respect her and knows all the crisis shes going through n make her up very well by listening to her n being sincere to her. he would never blackmail her neither he would marry her if she takes divorce as he is bound by his own spouse n kids. my friend tried to limit the contact with that guy but it seems impossible to her now to get out of it. whenever she tries doing so she find herself sinking into deep depression… i needed suggestions on how she could move on? there are no chances that her husband will make up with her n things would be fine. is it ok to carry on this relation? how the other guy could b convinced to marry her in case she manage to take divorce? how can she do it so that she dont have to face much social pressure? its kinda messed up matter.
So who says she needs to move on, your first priority is self perseverance, saying 3 words to a monster is not a license for him to enslave and abuse a person. I think she should cherish the only thing that brings some comfort in her life. A monster does not deserve fidelity. This is the mindset that has encouraged horrendous abuse in society.