Married men - Do you ever wish you were single again???

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typical desi woman behaviour lol

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^
No man, I think it's just typical woman behavior, my wife is not desi.

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I'm not married so cant be specific but I think some people are being a bit harsh on EDAL. Its understandable that everyone needs time alone or a change of scenery. He clearly loves his wife but probably just wants get out of the boring old norm and do something different.

I suggest speaking to her about how you feel. She'l be understanding (or i hope).

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no.

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1- Either she IS a clingy person.

OR

2- Knowing your past she is just trying to protect her territory.

Maybe she needs assurance from you that you are only wishing to be with male buddies not with female friends. And you will not leave her. She has been divorced before as I recall you saying.

Do you have wandering eyes?

Do you check out other women or comment about other women?

Are you a good looking man who also has a good job and do not discourage other women if they talk with you? etc.

These reasons develop insecurity feelings in women and they get more clingy.

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:rotfl:

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who is she ?

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I competely agree. Hear this from my married friends all the time that sometimes they wish..they could go out without any strings attached. And just a side story..just yesterday me and my friends were chilling..some of our mutual married friends showed up as well.
None of them wanted to go home and hang out with us for couple of hours more. It was already 12:30...their wives started to call up at around that time. And then there was a that look on their faces. "Ok guys..we have to go in half and hour. These are the friends..we rarely see hanging out with us.

But ya EDAL...i hear ya man!..that is why..i am trying to avoid marriage as much as i can and enjoy being single..

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It's 12:30AM. I mean, it's reasonable if she's calling to check up on her husband.

I'm sure you'd be calling too if she was out with her friends at 12:30...Hmmm?

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took the words right outta my mouth :omg:

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it’s totally normal to feel that way…we all have those moments of “what if…”

i don’t think it makes you a bad husband or jerk off…just proves that you’re human…have you tried talking to her? encourage her to pick up a hobby, or better yet, hand her your wallet and tell her to go shopping!!!

i have the opposite problem…my husband doesn’t want to go ANYWHERE!! he’s a total homebody..he’s got one or two friends (married as well) that he meets maybe once every couple of weeks for chai and that’s it. he works long hours, so when he’s home,..he wants to stay put!!! sometimes it’s suffocating…he’s perfectly content staying at home, when all i want is to be left alone to read a good book or watch my dramas online without him breathing down my neck!

but then, like Southie said…i’d be totally lost without him… :wub:

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I seem to recall you boasting about your young and innocent wife. Maybe her youth is making her be more clingy to you.

It is natural to feel annoyed with the people to whom we are closest. The feelings are temporary and they pass.

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No situation where i wish I was single again because i am unable to go on trips or hang out with pals. its more to do with kids that responsibilities increase and things that otherwise would be no issue become a factor, back when it was just the 2 of us for any international business trips or even for local conferences to nice locales, I would stay an extra couple of days. Now I know if i do that, she has to play single parent for another few days so i try to get back as soon as I can.

even evening out for the two are diff, especially new years because its hard as anything to have a babysitter for new years, so unless either of the parental units are in town, its a low key affair with other friends with similar aged kids, all in Pjs who zone out and we have a few hours to hang out.

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Bravo! to the way you put it all down :k:

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I'm sure guys like EDAL would never let their wives be out at 12:30 AM.

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wise women don't stay out till that late

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you’re getting quite boring and predictable. :yawn:

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i disagree.
it is a function of the safety of the place that they are at etc and norms of a place, alone vs group, transportation etc.

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I don't think this feeling of being caged in is limited to men. You're still newly married so she's a bit clingy. You might want to hold onto that feeling while it lasts.

Your wife is much younger than you...probably attractive as well. You wouldn't marry a bad looking girl.

If you were to start leaving her alone because you miss your single days...it won't be long before you're re-living them.

If I were you...I'd keep an eye on her...she doesn't need you. You need her.

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I still love my wife, and genuinely care for her well being. I'm also thankful to GOD for her. I would certainly never even dare think about doing something with another woman, despite the pain it would cause everyone, it's a major major sin, and I fear the wrath of Allah SWT. I'm not one of those guys who gawks and stares down other women,that's just rude. I lower my gaze.

Also, I agree with the people who said age is a factor here. She did just turn 21, I just turned 27. Sometimes my wife acts like a real baby with me. At first I found this kind of cute and adorable, but sometimes it just gets irritating. I hope with time she will change and become a little more mature. Hopefully.

I just needed to vent a little, because when I feel the desire to be single again - I feel super guilty. I just wanted to see if other guys felt the same way from time to time.I'd still say overall for me marriage is better than being single, plus it's 50% of our deen and saves you from a lot of haram.