Married life

[wannabe_a_mum]

Re: Married life

@Chameli420

I know that not all nands are like that and there are people who do respect each other for who they are.

But with my nand I dont experience that. I dont feel respected. I have quit my job to fit into her needs of having us around. come on, who does that for a nand???and still she isnt even grateful. instead she keeps behaving like a self centered sister who claims to be depressed but when u actually meet her after her whining it seems to be a way of getting attention of the newly wed couple.

We have spend all our weekends with her and this weekend we were suppose to just relax at home and when she found out, she told my husband that she was coming over in 30 minutes with her son - and that was dinner time so I just had to fix something very very fast for them. dont get me wrong. I welcome guests openheartedly offering them food etc but her ways are too odd and too intervening in my personal life. She told my husband that she hadnt have dinner yet but we must not prepare something for them. and yet she arrived, ate and ran off again right after…I later found out that she had been outdoors all day and was too tired to go home and prepare food.

I quit my job to fit our future plans into her needs of having us around. then I got new job and she didnt even congratulate me. she didnt say a word at that time and later she interviewed me about my job etc before she took her time to congratualte me with this new job.

then she spammed us with mails asking us to come with them to a trip to France. though I didnt want to I still tried to see how it could fit into our plans and suddenly the next day she had already booked her ticket and stuff cuz a friend cud go with her this month and therefore her son would get a free ticket. so money matters more than anything!

I am sick and tired of her chalaakiyaan. she acts like a naive little school girl and my husband cant see whats going on. on the other hand I think I m gonna explode very soon. she doesnt get the point that we sometimes need time for ourself as a couple.

I just want to tell my husband that I need to relax without visting or having guests all weekends - in fact I did tell him that but still she succeeded in ruining my plans to relax and instead leave me stresses out cuz I had to fix dinner in short time on a day where I was having strong pains…

I know that I must be mature as a married woman but what I dont understand is all this crap going on with her childish and yet very challak behaviour…and my health situation hasnt been very well either the past months but she doesnt get anything.

and my husband is too shy to tell her off so I feel quiet lonely when coping with this:(

OMG…do we have the same nand!!!