hi galz n ladies who r married in abroad i mean from pakistan they have been shifted in europe or anywhere out of pakistan,i want to ask few questions
1.how do u feel wen u r far away from ur families or paraents n often u cant meet them??r u galz r use to for this or inwardly miss aloot?
2.how often do u visit pakistan generally?once a year?
3.wat would u say abut the change in life when there is only inlaws team everywhere n no MAIKA ur parents or family,n for long time u cannt see them n u always u u hv to see ur inlaws around u??is there any need dat u feel dat with ur inlaws should b ur family to share,to relax,to change ur mind??bcuz every time how a person can b formal with inlaws,im saying word formal bcuz there is tottaly diff relation of a girl with her own family dat could nt b with inlaws,im not sayng some against to inlaws i only want to say dat a need of ur own persons father,mother,n other ppl disturbs u when u r alone in abroad…wat u say galz??
Re: married galz from pak has been shifted abroad?
Aww, i wish i never have to live even in any other city other than where my parents live. But these kinds of things can only be avoided nothing more as rite now lets say i might say no to a rishta if it proposes me to settle in a different country or even city but what happens if after marriage for some reason i have to move ?!?. But having said that, i would still do my part and stay away from any such rishtas, rest Allah knows whats better for me.
As to how to cope with such a situation, well i hope people here can help and guide you with it. Good luck :biggthumb.
Re: married galz from pak has been shifted abroad?
thats really sad..............i dont think its an ideal situation....we should keep this in mind before we get married....if i were given an option of a rishta abroad...i would NEVER take it....
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I think its so important to really consider the fact if you are going to marry a person abroad and not just ignore it away by saying "wahan jake dil lag jayega".
I've noticed that many pakistanis have the tendency to forget or rather give it less importance whether the new son/daughter-inlaw is settled in Europe/USA. But IMO it is like the most important thing to consider. Never marry abroad if you are not read to even live in a different city than your immediate family. It really only creates problems.
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not being someone who has been 'shifted' anywhere, i would assume that if you get on with your parents and live with them and talk to them everyday and basically enjoy their company. then no matter where you go you'll miss them and obviously it'll take time to adjust. if you move to another country then you have to deal with a new family with different styles and taste as well as a whole new culture etc etc
if your planning on moving from Pakistan to Europe- i don't think you can assume you'll visit your parents yearly at first..don't visa restrictions mean you can't leave the country to go that far for the first couple of years? I could be wrong, so don't take my word and get all worried and whatever.
Some people don't go back for a good few years. It all depends though. maybe you should get yourself a prenup (haha) stating how many visits you require home!
?!?. But having said that, i would still do my part and stay away from any such rishtas, rest Allah knows whats better for me.