So for those who are married how much do u do for ur spouse? For example for women do u wake up every morning iron ur husbands clothes and make him breakfast…and then give him lunch…make in between chai’s…and for men what do u guys do for ur wife?
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marriage is way more then these small things. guys help out a lot too with house work etc. its a two way street the name of the game is compromise and happiness. forget the she does he does stuff. its a mutual arrangement.
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hain .. yeh sub bhi kerna paray ga .
wat i learned from my parents , my father always ironed his clothes himself . never woke my mother up if she was asleep . made breakfast himself if he was in a hurry . even he helped us alot in daily routine .
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marriage is way more then these small things. guys help out a lot too with house work etc. its a two way street the name of the game is compromise and happiness. forget the she does he does stuff. its a mutual arrangement.
mmm not quite? i think it depends on the person. For some, sacrifice lies in the small acts....for others, in big acts i guess.. It ain't easy sacrificin (if it were, it wudnt be called a sacrifice ;)) but i think the best thing is to just forget about what you're losing and focus on what you're gaining..
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hain .. yeh sub bhi kerna paray ga . wat i learned from my parents , my father always ironed his clothes himself . never woke my mother up if she was asleep . made breakfast himself if he was in a hurry . even he helped us alot in daily routine .
hmm sounds like my dad yet my mom keeps insisting on how the girl has to do the work .....very ironic lol......well if he cares for you and loves you he'll help you out and if you care for him and love him you'll do your part as well
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marriage is way more then these small things. guys help out a lot too with house work etc. its a two way street the name of the game is compromise and happiness. forget the she does he does stuff. its a mutual arrangement.
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its small things..done without expectation and without asking. e.g. since school is out and begum is home, she is with teh kids all day, whenI coe home I try to give her some time to just herself, go shopping, just go relax, watch TV, take a nap, a bath whatever, just her time and I know she appreciates it. again small things..this was an example..she does many small things for me on a daily basis. she is away for a week and spent her last day here making the room sparkle so I am confortable while she is away, and did all my laundry and put it in my closet..so I dont have to worry about chores and can relax etc etc
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Sometimes men think they are doing a lot, infact that are not doing enough. I mean if you change the bulbs or bring out the trash, its equal to what the females are doing. The fact is that men can never do all that a woman does.
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^uh uh some one is not happy :D
depends on your partner. try to find out what makes them happy and if possible deliver it. different for each individual.
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etc etc. haha
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I love doing stuff for my sweet hubby…we have 2 rooms next to our bedrooms - 1 is a closet and i let him make it as messy as he wants cuz we leave our clothes lying around rather than the bedroom. the 2nd room is the study room, and boy thats messy with all his paperwork - i am tempted to clean it up but i just regard that as his own space and let him do what he wants. The reason i do all this is because he treats me to so many things that i am ever so grateful for and these lil things are only small way of showing him how much i appreciate him..
I want everything for him to be perfect - call me sad but when i do the ironing - i even iron his sleeping shorts and underpants…
haaa…i love it! If you are reading this pumpkin - i love you so much…xxx:clown:
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well my sis her husband does the same…he won’t wake her up in the morning and she sleeps longer than he does…and he will iron his own clothes and sometimes hers too…but she is lazy and she loves life that way…
on the other hand i do everything…i wake up and make breakfast sometimes give him breakfast in the room (cuz i don’t see the difference of putting food on the table or in a tray samething for me) and i iron his clothes…etc etc…and my mom thinks i do too much…she said not to make him dependent…but when i am not there he does it on his own…and sometimes he will do things for me too when i ask…so i don’t know if i should draw a line or continue to do what i do…
And she keeps telling me how my sis husband loves her sooo much…but u can’t justify love by the amount of work u do for someone can u??? I mean love is shown in many different ways right???
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The fact is that men can never do all that a woman does.
and vice versa..
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Well, I think there is a balance. Since right now I am a stay home mom, I do the laundry, I know my husband would love to do it, but he will cook everything in the dryer, I am very particular about what things go in the dryer and for how long and what need to be line dried. I do all the ironing. On weekdays I cook, but on weekends the kitchen belongs to him. He loves to cook, and so do I, but we have entirely different ways of cooking, his style will drive me nuts, so I just stay out. He loves grocery shopping, I hate it, so I go to the grocery store with my menus planned and buy the stuff I need, he is more spontanious. I think there is room for our different styles. Some days he will make the morning coffee and sometimes I. We both make financial decisions together. My husband works for an organization, where we go to a different country every two to three years, we are given a list of countries so that we can chose, we make decisions about the next assignment together, some times it is to a country he is interesed in...like right now we are in italy, but we are going to Islamabad, a place I wanted to go.
I thing a good marriage is when no body feels burdened by the chores!
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darling little sociopath are you scorning us poor married folks? :nono:
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^uh uh some one is not happy :D
depends on your partner. try to find out what makes them happy and if possible deliver it. different for each individual.
Not really, I am happy, but sometimes, they tend to forget to help! So got to give them a real good shake and they are back on the track again.
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I’m shocked that you would even think that I’d dare think such a blasphemy :halo:
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i was dumbfounded,incredulous as they brits say gobsmacked and now you put my mind to ease.i knew there was a misunderstanding here.
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I think cos my hubz neva expected me to do all this stuff for him-i neva did. My husbands white and he was very independant b4 he married me-so pretty much does his own laundery and ironing-hes neva asked me to do it-i do the housework but thats more cos im very particular abt how i want my house looking and even if he did it, i would redo it cos it isnt to my standard-yeh im fussy. Cooking wise its pretty much split-whoeva feels like doing it does it cos hes a very good cook as well. But i certainly dont go around making cups of coffee for him or run around after him. Plus during the day i look after our daughter.
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i'm sorry the idea that getting up and cooking and ironing is the "sacrifice" of marriage is just plain silly....relationships and marriage involve much more sacrifices and gives and takes...deeper and more meaningful ones than cooking and cleaning.