I have been married for 11 years now, I have a 9 year old daughter, my husband is busy in his own work and doesn’t make time for me, he doesn’t care to make me happy or please me in emotional and physical way. I have found a good male friend, he is in same situation with his wife, we like to talk to each other and discuss our life together. lately we feel we are getting close to each other, we have so much in common, our lives are so incomplete but together with talking we are feeling so close now. Do you think it is ok for us to have a physical relationship? I know he has asked me couple of times what I think. I really like him and want to get opinions from everyone on what they think. We are really unhappy in our married life, but together I think maybe we can help each other.
Now I am assuming you're muslim, so here goes my answer.
Having a physical relationship with a man, you are not married to, is not okay. Infact it is a great sin. It is zina.
Consider your priorities. THIS aint going to make you happy the way you want.
If you want to be happy, talk to your husband about it. If he is not ready to take care of the issue, get a divorce and find someone who is going to make you happy.
if you think he will satisfy you then why not but you would have to talk to your husband first about this. If you want to sleep with another man you have to divorce the man you're with and the man you are trying to have an affair with has to divorce his wife.
If you two want to be together then you have to stop ruining your own marriages and get married to each other or just get a divorce and move in with each other.
keep religion aside, it is not good lifestyle to involve in extra marital relationship. you need to speak with your own husband, ask /suggest things which could make your relationship better.
I have been married for 11 years now, I have a 9 year old daughter, my husband is busy in his own work and doesn't make time for me, he doesn't care to make me happy or please me in emotional and physical way. I have found a good male friend, he is in same situation with his wife, we like to talk to each other and discuss our life together. lately we feel we are getting close to each other, we have so much in common, our lives are so incomplete but together with talking we are feeling so close now. Do you think it is ok for us to have a physical relationship? I know he has asked me couple of times what I think. I really like him and want to get opinions from everyone on what they think. We are really unhappy in our married life, but together I think maybe we can help each other.
Thank you.
so cheap how can any one think of sleeping except his / her lifepartner I m so shocked by just reading ur prblem. find an appropriate way. ask ur husband about ur physical desires and if he z not ready then take a divorce and then u can marry some one else.
some time back i heard a similar case at Qtv, but the difference was that both had been married after getting divorced from their respective spouses , even then they were not happy.
all that glitters is not gold , wots the guarantee that u will be happy after getting married to the second man , maybe he becomes a worse husband than the first, wot will ure options be then?
people don't find their own things pleasing when they have taken a look at other tempting things.
bad,stay out of it...not too late.
Think of your daughter please,you don't want her psyched up as she grows.
This similar situation happened to this one lady we knew,had 2 teenage kids.Both got divorces from their spouses.stayed together for 2months...and THAT'S IT!!!! the lady came back to her old husband then...who by that time got married again.The kids totally ruined.
app kay monh say yeh alfaaz