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Being married does not mean you loose the fun from life,
it's doubled, trebled infact. You now have someone to share your good and bad times.
i agree with most posts sayiong that marriage does not dim life but makes it brighter.
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The Pk-One has some growing up to do is my verdict.
Re: Married and then what?
pk-one, I am in the same position as you. I quite like life as it is.
..then again I have Aunts who have literally scaled Everest with their other halves. So I hold out hope that being Settled down doesn't necessarily mean you are Shackled down...
*and tbh I don't REALLY understand why people decided to weep in answer to (what appeared to me, as being) a perfectly reasonable question.
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I just dont like people who need a GS thread to feel great about themselves. :)
Sure, people don't need partners. If they're asexual, that is.
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SU there is quite alot of projection in that one sentence.
No, I am not married or looking to get hitched just yet, but my question is more about these threads about weddings, engagements, and rishtas. Everyone is devoting so much time to these things but then what? You get married and its all over.
Being a single who does not date, yet is having the time of his life, this is all pretty foreign to me. i mean these days, I am out partying with friends, fly out for the weekends, make social plans as I go along, and don't really have many limitations. Married couples (most not all) seem dull and boring like going out to a restaurant once a week is big deal :D, or rolling with other similarly boring couples and talking about mortgages over chai all sounds a bit dull.
So are there any really active married couples? Is there any hope ;)
Dude guys don't want to go out!! we want to lie down on sofa and watch tv..
And if you get a pretty wife who let you do that hallalujah!!! and if she cooks.. WOW
and is she let dirty pig like us.. get close to her.... I mean what else some one needs from life??
pak-one'd be thinking "why the heck did I open this thread"?? lolz
It's quite sad to see that most people are just throwing garbage at pak-one without giving a straight answer to his question.
here's my say. The benefit of an unmarried life is that you have very few responsibilities and you don't need to think much before planning and spending money.
In a married life specially when you have children you need to plan everything beforehand according to the needs of your family and usually the things don't go in accordance to your plan.
Now talking about the fun part, I guess it depends on individuals if they choose to enjoy each moment of their life.
My personal experience is that a married life is more satisfying.
Thank you for a proper response, sis! I don't know any of these people spewing words of hate, without knowing my reality. I just wanted to ask a question to understand more about married life. If people chose to get defensive and start hating on me, because I honestly describe who I am and what I do, then it's on them.
I don't know married life, but like you mentioned, I do know the life of few responsibilities and making decisions to spend money. There is nothing hollow or empty about it, just the reality. I do want to get married at the right time to the right person, but I don't know how things will change (nothing is constant) and I wanted to get the sense from people who are married. I would love to stay active and share life with another person, but I am not ready for everything turning into a routine either.
Children will change everything from thinking about their well being to making sure that college expenses are paid for. I think I would definitely be ready for a lot more stability at that point.
The Pk-One has some growing up to do is my verdict.
For a moderator, you are probably the most unprofessional one here. Last time I checked I was allowed to voice my opinion - strong opinions but still my thoughts. If that policy has changed, then do let me know and I'll be happy to connect in other Muslim forums.
Also before you start giving out verdicts, I suggest that you re-read your snarky and quite unnecessary remarks. I have not directed any personal insults to you or any given married couple, but I will say this: Whether I am living in a penthouse or a tent, why does it bother so much? If you don't like what I have written then state the facts instead your inane attacks about what I have, what I do in life. I don't complain when Allah has blessed me with a good life, maybe if you spread happiness instead of tearing people down, perhaps you wouldn't be up late nights trying to insult someone who you don't even know.
pk-one, I am in the same position as you. I quite like life as it is.
..then again I have Aunts who have literally scaled Everest with their other halves. So I hold out hope that being Settled down doesn't necessarily mean you are Shackled down...
*and tbh I don't REALLY understand why people decided to weep in answer to (what appeared to me, as being) a perfectly reasonable question. *
Thank you, hitchki. Unlike others I am HAPPY to hear that you have a good life. Hey I might not know you, but if I see others in the same situation, it's reaffirming.
I mean it's amazing that you have aunts that have scaled Everest, they sound like strong and active women, and you have to appreciate that. I am going to stop responding to folks who nothing to add, because it doesn't bring value to the discussion.
Dude guys don't want to go out!! we want to lie down on sofa and watch tv.. And if you get a pretty wife who let you do that hallalujah!!! and if she cooks.. WOW and is she let dirty pig like us.. get close to her.... I mean what else some one needs from life??
Come on now dude, I don't mind having friends over once in a while to watch a game and relax, but I can't do the whole lie down on the sofa thing..Thats how Paki men get those pot bellies.
I don't think I can roll with your marriage plans, sure she should be pretty but cooking and letting us be dirty pigs is not my thing. In fact she should be pushing for hitting the gym, training for a marathon for all I care. I don't want the comfort zone of routines man, keep mixing things up new day new challenges. But hey if you like the pretty wifey cooking and letting you do your thing, then go for it :)
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i don't find anything wrong or immature with pak-ones post either. its a matter of readiness. some ppl get ready for marriage at early age n some don't till their 30's. when i was young i had tons of doubts abt marriage as well ,even kids i thought i'll never hav kids.Although i liked other's kids but didn't think i would ever want to giv birth to my own.. not all kids as soon as they hit 18 start thinking abt partners n relations. some do want to do lots of exploring before getting chained. nothing wrong with it at all.
however pak-one there will come a point in ur life though when u'll say now i do need a partner. life has come to a stand still n i need some new venues to explore.